By Bart Sharp

I have a few clients and friends who never seem to break beyond their core limitations.  They always seem to be in the same place in manifesting their life and finding happiness, satisfying work and relationships.  No matter what modality they try the critical mass to change the huge issues of a core limitation does not occur.

In my observation what these people have in common is they continue to blame in some way of form a person in their life for their misfortune and still hold resentments to them.  They perpetually have a nemesis that they project onto like their father or mother.  It is a belief that the person has created that this person raised or treated them wrongfully and it is why they have the distress in their life.

This concept is partially true in that the person is damaged by the misuse and abuse of the person, however believing that the past is insurmountable to overcome is the person’s own limited perspective.  There comes a point in the person’s life that the anger and blame towards the person must be transformed if they are to move past it.  We have to recognize our responsibility in the relationship.  In some shape or form we always have a part in it.

There comes a necessary stage in the process we become willing to forgive this person and be in allowance of what happened.  It is a process of uncovering the pain of the past, to find the truth and then find completion with it.  It is a process that many take months to years to transform but some point during that time they also come to a place of allowance of what happened.  Then the evolving person begins the perspective that they are now responsible for their shortcomings from now on and not their parents.  They no longer blame the wounds created in the past even if they are totally not healed.

Personal responsibility is the essence of moving on to break the critical mass of your core limitations.  Then different stages of growing beyond the past world begin to occur.  Finally a corner is turned where the pains of your past are not a part of your life, I call it critical mass.  All of the work that we have done finally transforms the core limitation.  It is a perceptual phenomenon in that we see our life finally change to where that person is no longer the perpetual weight of resistance in our life.

To break beyond our core limitation we must exercise a process of identification, clarity of the issues, forgiveness, more work and transformation.  Then we finally get to a new place of wholeness within ourselves.