By Bart Sharp

For the perpetually angry person trying to control anger can create a huge amount of anxiety as they try to manage their anger.  Then it becomes the anger management techniques for anxiety as well as anger that they need.  Most tools of anger management maintains a focus of the person controlling the anger through better awareness and exerting more attention to the behaviors.  The person using anger management has to use more of their energy to focus on not expressing anger so anxiety is a common outcome.  It is like trying to put out a grass fire with just your feet, it is affective in small amounts but when the flames are extensive the strategy is futile.  Who would not have anxiety?

When the person who is constantly angry is trying to come to terms with anger it is important for the person to look inside themselves beyond their mind to their body.  The memories that are from our past are held in body, in our cellular structures.  For example someone who was abused as a child will most likely have stored the anger inside of them in reaction to the abuser in a location like their stomach.  When they as adults meet situations similar to the people who abused them the suppressed memories of their past arise and it often feels like they are reacting from the pain of the past, not the present.

One of the best tools to use in these situations is learning to feel the body’s reactions when we become angry.  To feel the inflamed reactions in our stomach, intestines and other places that hold the angst.

By taking a part of our day as a time of reflection, review the events of the day and recall the parts that were anger inducing,  To relive them in a calm environment.  We will feel the same sensations we experienced earlier once again, however we are in a place of observation not action.  As we sit and recall the event we feel the negative reaction in our body.  We observe that sensation very closely.  Feel the distress that is creating in a place like our stomach or heart.  Being as present as we possibly can with it, feel all of the sensations of it.  It may feel inflamed, heavy, painful, the size of it.  Then I may ask questions about it such as “Where age (or situation) did this energy originate?” and may get a response of when it first happened.  This is all a fact finding exercise in discovering more about the energetic memory of the anger.

There are different strategies in resolving this old suppressed energy.  First would be to sit with it and tell our body we do not have to live in this past anymore.  To gently allow this energy to dissolve on its own.  Second is to feel the energy within the body and scream it out.  When we are in touch with the source of the anger that is suppressed it is an energy whose original intention is expression.  By screaming into a pillow while we feel it can release the old anger.  Third I do energetic clearings on the anger, with the tools of Access Energy Transformation.  When we identify the anger and do these clearings it is highly effective in permanently releasing the anger.

We do not need to experience the anxiety of managing our anger if we can release it.  We can progress to living joyful and happy lives instead of angry ones.

By Bart Sharp

There was a study several years ago on a group of parents that abused their children regularly.  Each of these parents were given a surrogate sponsor parent who accompanied them when they were with their children.  These surrogates were not to monitor abusive behavior of the parents or report them.  The only function of the sponsor was to nurture the parent when they began to become stressed such as negative emotional state of anger or rage. They would hold the parent until their needs were met then the parents would proceed about their day with their children.  In all cases there were no incidents of abuse reported.

I find this very important information in that we are triggered to commit other behaviors that we would rather not do.  Unfortunately we are compelled so strongly that we do it anyway and regret it later weather it be an abuse, addiction, compulsive shopping, rage expressed, shaming self and others.

When we feel we are impulsive to act on one of our undesirable behaviors the first step is to stop and preferably find a quiet place.  When we find a place to calm feel what is occurring inside of your body.  By observing within in a calm nurturing way the trigger will change.  We find the places that are stressed in our body that the trigger is reacting from.  When we get to that core place (I find most of mine in my stomach and my heart) and observe it everything that is stimulated from the trigger will begin to change (I literally feel the fears in my stomach calm down).  It is the beginning of it not having power over us.  The more that we observe these parts that are stressed we may begin the see the fear that created it as well.  Our job is to perceive them, not judge them and nurture.

By Bart Sharp

I recently received an email from a person that was asking for a friend of hers, if I did sliding scale fees with some of my clients.  I replied yes I do with a few clients, however there are some requirements.  I only work with sliding scale fee clients that are committed to changing them selves.  The client must be willing do some kind of personal inner work on themselves daily, take on home work from me of exercises and be as present as possible.

When I give away my work for a lesser price I require something that is extra rewarding for me.  Seeing clients willing to change and to do the work to make it happen lights me up more than anything that I know.  I am teaching, facilitating and doing energy work, not rescuing or expected to create miracles.  I can be a catalyst for miraculous things in people’s lives or even help people see what is possible.  But I have found that in most cases clients are the ones who have to make the cross over in some way and transform their lives.

Nothing is more exciting than seeing someone hungry for change and doing the things that make it happen.  Deep down that is my biggest reward.  The money is nice, it is fun and helps pay the bills.  Seeing hearts alive about them selves is what it is all about.

By Bart Sharp

One of the greatest sources of addiction, illness and depression is anger.  The conflicts with parents we have at an early age that are left unresolved are often the source of our ‘dis ease’.  The relationship often has love with a lie attached wherein the reoccurring suffering began.

Seamus was the oldest of four children and was seen as the favored child of his father.  As the oldest son he enjoyed a particular closeness to his father and often trailed his dad around their farm.  The relationship between father and son was for most part very close.  However there were times that the father would become very demeaning with Seamus for no apparent reason saying things such as, “I’m tired of looking at you, get out of here.”

The world of the six-year old boy would be devastated.  There was no consolation for the unexpected rejection from his father.

For the father he would become overwhelmed with the responsibility of providing and managing a family.  Times were tough and he felt the weight of the whole world on his shoulders.    As much as the father tried to be a positive leader he would react in negative aggressive ways to his children.  Much like the ways his own father treated him.  Seamus’ father swore he would never treat his children in that manner but found himself doing the things he had hated in his father.

For Seamus the shaming from his father at first made him feel desperately low.  The young boy would push his feelings aside continue in his normal routines.  In time Seamus stopped reacting in a suppressed passive tone but would express his negative feelings with his siblings.  He began to bully his younger brother and sisters.

Through the years an ever changing relationship of love and hate type of relationship developed between Seamus and his father.  At times they were very close but there were always incidents of conflict between the two usually resulting in verbal intimidation and physical punishment.  Seamus seemed to always create incidents to draw the trouble to him as if he wanted the conflict.

As an adult Seamus married.  He and his wife fought like he did with his dad.  It appeared that the couple could always find a new topic to disagree about or recreate an issue that they had not resolved.  Instead of seeking help from an outside source to find peace Seamus chose to numb his pain through drugs and/or alcohol.  It only made his problems worse.

The real addiction in Seamus’ life was anger.  He unconsciously either created conflicts with those he loved the most or found reasons to confront co-workers, friends or sometimes strangers.  In each incident Seamus found a justification of why to confront the person usually with the point of view that he was right and they were wrong.

Seamus would say that he did not like being angry.  Much like the conflicts he had with his father, he seemed to be a magnet for conflict.   A few times became physically violent.  He hated those fights.  However he continued to find himself pulled back in the fray once again.  At age fifty Seamus’ anger resonated in him almost all of the time, if he was not in a direct conflict Seamus was resentful of others in his life.  Having the fights never resolved the conflict so that he could permanently put those memories away.   The fights seemed to recreate a greater struggle in himself.

The source of Seamus pain was not with his wife, family or co-workers but back when he was a child.  It is the hurt caused from his father who belittled and shamed him with physical punishment and harsh criticism.  Then the father showed his son love by doing things together.  It was a conflictual message that anger and punishment were a part of love.  Seamus took this message and demonstrated it in his adult life with those he loved. However it did not bring him happiness.

As much as he tried Seamus could not break his cycle of anger.  It was the shame he experience from his father that was the original source of his anger.  The anger was only a reaction to his feelings of rejection from the person he wanted to please the most.

Since Seamus could not directly express his anger towards his father he created a pattern to express his aggression onto others.  He built years of rationales or judgments of ways he could be triggered into anger.  Life for Seamus had become a painful ongoing re-creation of his past angst to unconsciously dominate his life.

For Seamus the most beneficial therapy may be an invitation to that child part of himself to feel those feelings again and grieving his rejections.  Doing Access Energy work could be beneficial in that it can help Seamus release some of the repetitive patterns stuck in his body, cellular memories. It would be a process of identifying the stories of being shamed and angry, then feeling those experiences in his body.  Once the body memories have been identified the energetic releases of Access can create a permanent release of the painful memories.  The clearings would benefit Seamus in that he would not be triggered to react in anger.  Through multiple sessions Seamus would not be carrying the load of negative unresolved emotions and he could feel more freedom to experience life in a more joyful way.

The longer we hold onto anger and shame it will eventually create some kind of illness within us (physical and/or emotional).  If it is suppressed it is often held in places like our colon, intestines, kidneys, solar plexus and more.  The “dis ease” of these unresolved emotions is often the source of stress in our body parts that create disease in our body.

By Bart Sharp

Some anger is very intense and seems overwhelming, wrong for us to have it and/or scary.  Anger should not be judged first as right or wrong.  Instead if we just look at it non-judgmentally we can often see it more clearly than we ever have before.

I asked to get in touch with my deepest hidden killing energies deep inside my body.  When I ask that question my body usually responded with a part of  me resonating with a certain strong dark intensity.  It was a heavy vibration in my lower abdomen like something repressed away deep within my bowels.  It was something that was stuffed in the most secret recesses of my psyche.  Somewhere in my past I had decided this should not be seen.

The message of this shameful memory was a deep desire to kill, harm, brutalize.  It was a very dark inside that I did not wish to see as well as a heavy weight holding me back in my everyday endeavors.

I sat and felt it.  I did not run away but remained present with this energy in an observing way.  It was a powerful desire, a source of energy.  It was odd but it did not have a feeling of anger or hatred.  Yes it felt like a destructive force but like one of an animal of prey that kills to survive.

As I sat and paid attention to the energy its location became more specific.  It was of so much in the lower abdomen in originated in the perineum and went up into the stomach.  The perineum is a place that is blocked by repressed sexual energy.  At the same time it is an area that sexual energy comes from.  When our issues of repressed anger are released our sexual energy flows freely and our second chakra is vibrant.

In that moment I realized how the killing energies and the generative sexual energies are intertwined in the perineum core that goes up inside of us.  It is the death and rebirth, transformation and destruction.   This consciousness was not bad or wrong I had created it that way by judging that all anger is wrong.  Thus I repressed it and could no longer access it as a working tool for me.  Instead my fear of angry expressions made it as a force working against me.

I thought of Jesus on the cross as a great example of allowance of his own death to transform other lives.  Even if it resulted in death he was not reacting as a victim because he knew it would result in greater lessons for humanity.  There was much anger and killing energies from all sides of this conflict except within Jesus, he allowed it to become a greater purpose.

We do not have to be a victim to allow anger.  A friend of mine was very angry and yelling because she felt her spiritual teacher was manipulating her.  As I sat with her I first had a reaction inside that it was my fault as I was the one who introduced her to the man.  Then the judgment that I need to defend myself by arguing with her came up.  I decided to not address the situation this way but let down my defensiveness to her and listen.  Soon I could feel her pain instead of her aggression.  I then started questioning her in emotional reference questions such as. “Are you feeling angry at him because you perceived that he lied to you?”  There was a confirmation from my friend we were able to process the situation quickly.

In another situation I was with my long haired twelve year old godson in the men’s restroom at a local restaurant.  We were at the sink area washing our hands when a man looked at the youngster and said, “Maybe you should be in the girl’s (restroom)”.

I stared back at the man and said, “You are being disrespectful to a young man that you do not even know!”  I said it with enough force he knew I was angry.  I did not attack him but simply addressed the behavior.

The man stopped, mumbled to him self and walked out of the restroom.  If I had not worked on my own suppressed angers I would have most likely reacted in two ways; either said nothing and felt ashamed of myself or over-reacted and risked the situation become more than a quick verbal exchange.

In our interaction with anger we do not need to react in fear to it but as an energy to take action.   The embrace to be the killing energy (or anger) that it empowers us in our life.  It is not destructive or hurtful but an impetus to change.  This is what the power of our second chakra is all about.

By Bart Sharp

Finding love as an adult when your parents were unable to show you love as a child is not impossible.  The most important aspect of finding love is discovering our own ability to love ourselves first and foremost.  This is a process of learning where to find the source of our own love.

For many who grew up in homes of little affection they sought love through other people.  Relationships never truly complete that place inside of us that feels like there is something missing.  We cannot resolve our happiness through others generally the relationships will mirror what we are lacking.   Wholeness of us is a rediscovery within ourselves not completion with others.

A common misconception is that we will never regain our love that we missed in childhood.  This is partially true because often our parents did not have it to give in the first place.  However we do need to go back and visit that part of us that suffered from the lack of caring.  It can be as easy as visualizing you as an infant or child and holding this person.  Nurturing you and telling you the things it needs to hear in order to feel more complete.  All too often we see our child as being wrong in various scenarios in our past when in reality that we as a child probably did the most brilliant thing we could do.  We need to tell this child part of us those nurturing and reassuring messages on a regular basis.  Simply sit in a chair, hold and talk to your imagined baby.  It feels good.

To find our own love begins in getting in touch with our heart and our gut.  I am always paying attention to my heart and creating a stimulus that makes it feel whole and alive.  One of my favorite exercises is to visualize my higher power holding me and my heart.  That I am nurtured by god and know that god’s love is always with me.  I can do this wth my guardian angels as well.   My connection to a higher source always helps me connect to my own higher love.

Sometimes I sit on the earth and imagine or visualize the energy of the earth coming up into my stomach.  This always makes me feel more centered and embodied into me.  When this happens I always feel better and my heart opens.

Creating love within you is a process.  We can find our self and the love that is naturally inside of us.   It is a process of reorienting our mind to believe and see something that has been there all along, our self-love.

The shadow is an equally important part of us to the persona that we hold in the front and show to the world, it is equally a part of our personal power.  The shadow is the parts of the past that have been suppressed or unrecognized.  It can also be oppositional to the image of us that we actively present to others. We live in a duality of our life of light and dark and our power goes to both places.  As much energy as some project out to the being they wish to actively present in the world the we supply the shadow side an energy as well.

Psychologist Carl Jung, creator of the shadow concept said,  “The Shadow must always have an avenue to be explored and expressed otherwise it will come out in a more animalistic way.”  The evidence of the shadow in an animalistic expression would be someone attacking another in a ‘road rage’ incident or beating his wife whom he loves yet cannot control his expression of anger.   It would be easy to assume that there is anger suppressed and unresolved in these attackers that suddenly comes out when triggered.

The expression of the shadow comes out in other ways than direct aggression.  Some may be passively expressing the aggression, obsessed, have addictions, depression and other behaviors.  It is our psychi’s way of using a behavior to not feel the suppressed parts of us AKA the  shadow side.   However, the unresolved pains of our past that are the creation of our shadow are the driving energy of our dysfunctional behaviors.  An important ingredient of resolving our negative behaviors is knowing how the creation of our undesired patterns is an expression of our shadow.

The more that we can look into the stories of our past and see the dynamics of how we created our shadow sides we can begin to integrate these parts within us so our life feels more whole.  We begin to see the shadow part that once came forth as intense, destructive anger is now a strong energy that can firmly advocate for a cause or tell another “No” in a firm way that no longer requires a physical force to back it.  Or someone who is addicted may come to terms with their shame so that now they have more self-esteem.  Though their awareness of  how they created themselves as feeling lesser than the humility that they have is an heart opening that opens them to be more aware of others and confront their addictions.

When we suppress an experience we often do so because it is too overwhelming and/or we do not have the tools to process the information.  When we judge the situation as bad because it is unbearable; a part of our self splits apart from us on an energetic level creating the shadow.  This memory separates as a sub-identity from us, as it is a part of us but exists as a wounded side of us in partial integration.   This is why after a traumatic experience we do not feel whole and a part of us incomplete.  All of this could be avoided if we could process this experience and reconcile it within us beginning in our childhood.

The shadow remains as a submerged part of our consciousness holding a anguished part of us hidden away in a suppressed state.  This past energy is not totally passive. When we encounter situations that are similar to the suppressed experience the behavior recreates itself in the image of the past emotional trauma that we originally had.  So we feel the same past intensity as the shadow part becomes alive and sparks the body to relive the sensation again.  Most people react in a negative way when they feel these old memories not knowing it is from their past.  For many they are reliving these past tape loops time and time again.  Worst yet, they judge something is wrong with them resulting in re-traumatizing themselves.

It is important when we encounter a situation that we feel distress and know that it is unreasonably greater than the present stimulus we may have memories of our past influencing us.  It is important not to react in a fearful way or judge us but to perceive the sensations occurring in our body.  When we observe what is occurring inside of us we begin the process of uncovering and dissolving the fears and energies that surround this past memory.

By paying attention to the uncomfortable sensations in our body be begin the process of identifying the body memory of our trauma.  Next ask your self what was it that stimulated the trauma to reappear.  It may have been a thought, comment or place that is associated with a past experience.  I find that people will often represent others that I have had unresolved conflicts with whose memories are stored away.  When I feel these emotions in my body I ask, “Where is the source of this from?” or “Where did this come from?”  Often a vision or short message comes up into my body, not from my mind that will let me know where the stress originated.

The more clarity I have with the situation where the suffering originated I can recall the event.  By identifying our self and the others in the event we can begin the process of forgiving our self and others.

When we experience events in life that overwhelm us a part of our psychi splits apart from us.  The trauma of the memory of the event is too much for us to hold in our body and/or we are unable to process it.  An example would be someone who is physically abused, the pain and suffering of the event creates the separation as a part of them begins to exist outside of themselves.  However the anxiety does not completely leave the body only a part of their persona.  However, the anxiety is directly connected to the split-shadow part of the person.  When the abused person encounters someone or thing that they associate with the abuse their body recreates the memory from the anxious wound of the split part of themselves.

In my work I help the person identify the trauma in their body, trace it back to the incident and identify this shadow part that has separated from them.  Once the split self is found it can be easily re-integrated back into the body.  Then the uncomfortable sensations immediately leave that once existed in our body memory.  More importantly the person feels that part of their life is whole and the fears that the original trauma has created in the person’s life disappear.  The split part re-energizes the body with a part of its innate intelligence or being that it has not known since the original incident.  The re-occuring patterns of anxiety, anger, guilt that are unconsciously created from that specific trauma go away.

The shadow is reintegrated more fully by realizing the suppressed traumas in our body.  When we become more aware of all the unconscious parts of us and the shadow becomes an inner strength instead of a undesirable part of us.  In addition, the fearful parts of the suppressed memories are no longer there giving us subtle and not so subtle negative messages about ourselves.

Without an aggressive or fear based shadow the joy that we all innately have becomes a regular aspect of us.  We find it easier to move forward in all parts of our life.

In my observations of the world by perceiving into a consciousness beyond my body I asked the question “What talents and abilities are ready to begin showing up in more people?”  These are some of the responses I received.  Some of them are a fresh perspective, others I have already have seen in a few people or in myself.  I hope you enjoy them.

The ability to absorb information beyond our mind.  We will learn from a whole body experience, immersion.   In other words our body will ‘immersed’ into the experience of learning, our mind we be a part of it. It is a way our body can better adapt to the massive amounts of information created out there.  Our body’s creates this talent as a way to learn in a faster style. As we gain clarity of the intimate relationship with our bodies all forms of learning will be easier.  If you have difficulties learning a subject for example computers, ask your body to be a part of the process.

Fix own cars and computers doing energy work.  Both machines are electronically highly sophisticated, these microchips and other gadgets absorb our negative energies.  It is why they mysteriously break down.  Energy work on these machines does wonders on them.

Soul drenching to cleanse our water, food and our selves.  By opening the energy of our heart and allowing the energies of us (our hearts) flow into our foods and waters we can cleanse them.  Of course the requirement is you need a purer heart and soul to begin with.  What better instrument to cleanse own self than with our hearts?  There are lots of people (myself included) doing heart work to resolve limitations within us.   The results are remarkable.  Our hearts opening and being used as a tool is a concept ready to be used by the masses.

To place our dreams out into the universe and allow something more powerful than our minds/ego to assist in developing them.  This is not a new concept.  The more people put their dreams out to spirit and let go of themselves being the ultimate control has more power than ever before.  An age-old concept gaining speed.

Orgasmic living.  People are building second chakra or sexual energy in big ways.  Its outcome is not always about having sex, although it is a more pleasurable experience.  It is an orgasmic sensation in activities such as meditation; writing and art are the easiest for many.  It boils down to what you are excited about.  Although a friend told me of a story about Arnold Swartzneggar in his body building days saying how orgasmic lifting weights were for him.  In the creation of that kind of energy he dominated bodybuilding, then made millions in movies and is it no surprise that be became the Governor of California.    More of us can do this.

Seeing more realities of other dimensions we exist in and integrating them into the now.  The more we pull all of the places we are functioning into the now we become more powerful mojos here and now.

Perceiving energies of the future.  According to Gary Douglas this is very much connected to sexual energy.

Angels are more energetically present and closer in this reality.  The more we invite them in they can come in closer.  How many more of us believe in this possibility compared to ten years ago?

Bi-location.  Some people can consciously bring their energy into another place and perceive what is going on.  Others can locate themselves and just feel the energy there.  It feels like we will break through in some bigger ways in the future.  I personally would like to whisper thoughts in the CEO of Exxon and other big companies to be more caring to the planet.

Telepathic communication will be easier to do across the world.  Why use the Internet, although the Internet seems to be linked in with this talent as they both function in some of the same ways.

A greater sensation of JOY!  A greater sensation of DESPAIR!  You choose.  A recent weight I lifted off my shoulders was having the willingness to die, then having the willingness to allow the earth to die with gratitude for what it has given us.  I was carrying a huge burden in creating change through a defensive posture that was unwilling to let the earth go.  I would fight to the bitter end for its survival.  Now I work with the same intensity to create change but it is not a fight but an adventure.

Communing with the earth changes our weather patterns.  A message I get from earth spirits is that the earth is simply waiting for us to evolve then it will create the changes according to our evolution.  Could we be changing the weather patterns?  Currently we are having much needed rain and colder weather.  I find this interesting.

Of course growth is not possible if we are not willing to change and we how we create our limitations.  That is the real work if you want to see miracles in your life.

Those are the thoughts.  If I had written these out twenty years ago, some of you may have been calling the mental institutions for me.  I hope you enjoy them.  All the best in 2010, Bart Sharp.

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By Bart Sharp

What makes someone so mean and angered that they can or could commit violent acts onto others?  There are three parts in the creation of someone so angry.  There is a pain in that person so angry that they could be violent, a decision they made to act on it and a judgment they made it right or wrong that holds the pattern in place.

The pain is often something the persecutor has held all or most of their life.  The common emotional experience that holds this pain in place is shame.  For many aggressive people it is something that they experience often at an early age and is most painful for them.  Shame is conveyed is such ways as telling a child they are unwanted, not welcomed in the home, undesired, wrong for their actions and so many other ways.  Parents that resent the fact that they have children are some of the worst culprits as the child is the victim of the parents discontent through their actions and unconscious thoughts.

The child then harbors the pain of the shame and builds their self-esteem from that limited point of view.  The creation of feeling lesser than others and having people in your life that reinforce the perspective is the nucleus of another emotional stronghold in the child’s life, anger.

As the child grows they choose what to do with the anger.  It is a decision that creates an important pattern in their lives.  Does the child express or suppress the anger?

If the decision is expression then the child most likely will likely use anger as a destructive and controlling force.  It is unlikely that the child learns how to use anger in an assertive or positive way because they did not have the roles models to teach them the skills.  Most likely the pattern of aggression is done by a judgment that they are right or wrong in their aggression which the judging solidifies the pattern.   The unconscious and suppressed judgment influences the repetition of aggressive acts.  The shame through anger creates an active ongoing pain in the person.

The unconscious mind/body is a powerful part of us.  Sigmund Freud said that the unconscious influences 90% of our decisions.  It drives us to decision in a subtle masked way.  For example, a person who seems to be aggressive to passive men may have unresolved conflicts with her own passive father.  Unconsciously the person is trying to resolve the conflict attracting similar people into their live to re-play it.  Unfortunately this unconscious strategy does not have a high degree of success.

If the decision of the child is to suppress the anger they find more passive ways to express the anger and/or self-destructive ways to reinforce their own powerlessness such as depression, addiction, ongoing anxieties, disempowerment, and long list of other behaviors.

When we can come to terms with our anger by identifying it and feeling it within us then we are on the path to feeling where it began, the shame.  Using therapeutic strategies to explore these long lost emotions through the body memory can be very effective in identifying the shame and releasing it.

Bart Sharp works with clients by identifying the body memory of the emotional pains and then using energetic clearings to resolve the memories.  People discover a new perspective when the shamed parts of themselves evolve to a joyful perspective.  A freedom and inner strength is rediscovered that feels natural and gives the person a new power to transform their life.