By Bart Sharp

I have a few clients and friends who never seem to break beyond their core limitations.  They always seem to be in the same place in manifesting their life and finding happiness, satisfying work and relationships.  No matter what modality they try the critical mass to change the huge issues of a core limitation does not occur.

In my observation what these people have in common is they continue to blame in some way of form a person in their life for their misfortune and still hold resentments to them.  They perpetually have a nemesis that they project onto like their father or mother.  It is a belief that the person has created that this person raised or treated them wrongfully and it is why they have the distress in their life.

This concept is partially true in that the person is damaged by the misuse and abuse of the person, however believing that the past is insurmountable to overcome is the person’s own limited perspective.  There comes a point in the person’s life that the anger and blame towards the person must be transformed if they are to move past it.  We have to recognize our responsibility in the relationship.  In some shape or form we always have a part in it.

There comes a necessary stage in the process we become willing to forgive this person and be in allowance of what happened.  It is a process of uncovering the pain of the past, to find the truth and then find completion with it.  It is a process that many take months to years to transform but some point during that time they also come to a place of allowance of what happened.  Then the evolving person begins the perspective that they are now responsible for their shortcomings from now on and not their parents.  They no longer blame the wounds created in the past even if they are totally not healed.

Personal responsibility is the essence of moving on to break the critical mass of your core limitations.  Then different stages of growing beyond the past world begin to occur.  Finally a corner is turned where the pains of your past are not a part of your life, I call it critical mass.  All of the work that we have done finally transforms the core limitation.  It is a perceptual phenomenon in that we see our life finally change to where that person is no longer the perpetual weight of resistance in our life.

To break beyond our core limitation we must exercise a process of identification, clarity of the issues, forgiveness, more work and transformation.  Then we finally get to a new place of wholeness within ourselves.

The shadow is an equally important part of us to the persona that we hold in the front and show to the world, it is equally a part of our personal power.  The shadow is the parts of the past that have been suppressed or unrecognized.  It can also be oppositional to the image of us that we actively present to others. We live in a duality of our life of light and dark and our power goes to both places.  As much energy as some project out to the being they wish to actively present in the world the we supply the shadow side an energy as well.

Psychologist Carl Jung, creator of the shadow concept said,  “The Shadow must always have an avenue to be explored and expressed otherwise it will come out in a more animalistic way.”  The evidence of the shadow in an animalistic expression would be someone attacking another in a ‘road rage’ incident or beating his wife whom he loves yet cannot control his expression of anger.   It would be easy to assume that there is anger suppressed and unresolved in these attackers that suddenly comes out when triggered.

The expression of the shadow comes out in other ways than direct aggression.  Some may be passively expressing the aggression, obsessed, have addictions, depression and other behaviors.  It is our psychi’s way of using a behavior to not feel the suppressed parts of us AKA the  shadow side.   However, the unresolved pains of our past that are the creation of our shadow are the driving energy of our dysfunctional behaviors.  An important ingredient of resolving our negative behaviors is knowing how the creation of our undesired patterns is an expression of our shadow.

The more that we can look into the stories of our past and see the dynamics of how we created our shadow sides we can begin to integrate these parts within us so our life feels more whole.  We begin to see the shadow part that once came forth as intense, destructive anger is now a strong energy that can firmly advocate for a cause or tell another “No” in a firm way that no longer requires a physical force to back it.  Or someone who is addicted may come to terms with their shame so that now they have more self-esteem.  Though their awareness of  how they created themselves as feeling lesser than the humility that they have is an heart opening that opens them to be more aware of others and confront their addictions.

When we suppress an experience we often do so because it is too overwhelming and/or we do not have the tools to process the information.  When we judge the situation as bad because it is unbearable; a part of our self splits apart from us on an energetic level creating the shadow.  This memory separates as a sub-identity from us, as it is a part of us but exists as a wounded side of us in partial integration.   This is why after a traumatic experience we do not feel whole and a part of us incomplete.  All of this could be avoided if we could process this experience and reconcile it within us beginning in our childhood.

The shadow remains as a submerged part of our consciousness holding a anguished part of us hidden away in a suppressed state.  This past energy is not totally passive. When we encounter situations that are similar to the suppressed experience the behavior recreates itself in the image of the past emotional trauma that we originally had.  So we feel the same past intensity as the shadow part becomes alive and sparks the body to relive the sensation again.  Most people react in a negative way when they feel these old memories not knowing it is from their past.  For many they are reliving these past tape loops time and time again.  Worst yet, they judge something is wrong with them resulting in re-traumatizing themselves.

It is important when we encounter a situation that we feel distress and know that it is unreasonably greater than the present stimulus we may have memories of our past influencing us.  It is important not to react in a fearful way or judge us but to perceive the sensations occurring in our body.  When we observe what is occurring inside of us we begin the process of uncovering and dissolving the fears and energies that surround this past memory.

By paying attention to the uncomfortable sensations in our body be begin the process of identifying the body memory of our trauma.  Next ask your self what was it that stimulated the trauma to reappear.  It may have been a thought, comment or place that is associated with a past experience.  I find that people will often represent others that I have had unresolved conflicts with whose memories are stored away.  When I feel these emotions in my body I ask, “Where is the source of this from?” or “Where did this come from?”  Often a vision or short message comes up into my body, not from my mind that will let me know where the stress originated.

The more clarity I have with the situation where the suffering originated I can recall the event.  By identifying our self and the others in the event we can begin the process of forgiving our self and others.

When we experience events in life that overwhelm us a part of our psychi splits apart from us.  The trauma of the memory of the event is too much for us to hold in our body and/or we are unable to process it.  An example would be someone who is physically abused, the pain and suffering of the event creates the separation as a part of them begins to exist outside of themselves.  However the anxiety does not completely leave the body only a part of their persona.  However, the anxiety is directly connected to the split-shadow part of the person.  When the abused person encounters someone or thing that they associate with the abuse their body recreates the memory from the anxious wound of the split part of themselves.

In my work I help the person identify the trauma in their body, trace it back to the incident and identify this shadow part that has separated from them.  Once the split self is found it can be easily re-integrated back into the body.  Then the uncomfortable sensations immediately leave that once existed in our body memory.  More importantly the person feels that part of their life is whole and the fears that the original trauma has created in the person’s life disappear.  The split part re-energizes the body with a part of its innate intelligence or being that it has not known since the original incident.  The re-occuring patterns of anxiety, anger, guilt that are unconsciously created from that specific trauma go away.

The shadow is reintegrated more fully by realizing the suppressed traumas in our body.  When we become more aware of all the unconscious parts of us and the shadow becomes an inner strength instead of a undesirable part of us.  In addition, the fearful parts of the suppressed memories are no longer there giving us subtle and not so subtle negative messages about ourselves.

Without an aggressive or fear based shadow the joy that we all innately have becomes a regular aspect of us.  We find it easier to move forward in all parts of our life.

The basis of our present emotional limitations is from the unresolved conflicts that we have encountered in life. The challenges we have suppressed in early childhood are often the most difficult to uncover.

In the process of discovery of how our life was created, listening to our body and trusting what we perceive allows us to have a greater insight than recalling our life only from the memories in our mind. As we review our life we can feel those memories as body will express the repressed through reliving the tensions, fears, angers, etc … The energies of our traumas and conflicts exists not only in places like our stomach, heart and solar plexus but we often hold the memory outside of our body as we separate parts of our spirit from us as a way to deal with the shock of being unable to process the conflict. The suppression of these part of our self is the impetus for addictive behaviors, love addiction, co-dependency and other self sabotaging behaviors.

For the past few days I have grieved the loss of my former girlfriend. It was not an odd occurrence as I have processed this for several months. Today was worse as something was obviously coming to a head.

As I sat and contemplated I begin to reflect about the woman who I declared as my first love at age eighteen. I was crazy about her yet when the relationship was beginning to become intimate she broke-up. As I thought about Nelda I began to feel a heavy yet traumatic sensation vibrate about eight inches outside my lower abdomen. I am not unfamiliar to such sensations as I feel the energetic memory of much of my past. This particular sensation was the part of me that was still grieving my first love, still in the shock of it frozen in an energetic place outside my stomach.

Within a few minutes of this realization I was negotiating with this shadow part of myself telling me that I was no longer eighteen and if it wishes to find love the best place is in my body’s heart. The split part of me integrated back into me.

I quickly explored the separated part of me grieving my latest former girlfriend in a place outside my stomach invited that energy to come back into me. Then I recalled three other relationships that had similar endings and not surprised to find the same dynamics of the other two relationships. Though these were not all of the loves of my life these five relationships were all hauntingly disappointing like grasping for something that I could not have. Looking back it felt like I was destined to fail in all five loves.

The question arose, “Was there an earlier relationship that began this pattern of futility?” The information was almost immediate, my mother. I did have a sexual attraction to my mother and a competition with my father during my early years of life. Sigmund Freud was spot on with the Oedipus complex, I felt in not only in my bones as correct but could perceive the split energy resonating strongly outside me more dominate than the other five ones.

Beyond feeling the sensation of the energy it all made so much sense for myself. I was a sickly child, was very dependent on my mother and the youngest son. My father had bonded with my two older brothers; I had my mother. As innocent as the dynamics were it all laid out nice and neat. However, as Freud said the son cannot have his mother and must come to terms with this loss.

Unfortunately there were no therapist or counselors in rural Texas in the 1950’s to help me so the part of that overwhelmed with this challenge left my body to exist outside of me. I spent much of my childhood and adult life living outside my body functioning in the fears of these separate shadow worlds where the incidents of trauma perpetuated itself. It was the shadow part of me that believed that women were unobtainable, or at least a certain type of woman. I could now see how I unconsciously created suffering for myself by wishing for a type of woman that was unavailable like my mother, (though my mother loved me as her son). I would find myself spinning in a cycle of frustration.

The power of finding the shadow part that long ago separated from us allows our body to integrate that unconscious part back. An unresolved part will continue to recreate the traumas it was created from as a way to find resolution. Unfortunately most of us are unaware of how the body and mind process conflicts and are influenced by the energy to recreate the event again in a different situation with similar types of people to the original crises.

When we bring the shadow energy back into our heart and body all of the emotional angst and unconsciousness that the split part created dissolves as the spirit becomes whole. We receive back all of the energy that was used to create the stuck point of view. When I witness a shadow part going back to a person it always feels like a minor miracle. It is a testament to the concept that our unresolved unconscious conflicts are the source of our suffering but we can find the freedom through our self-rediscovery.

We spend so much of our energy living in the past. If there is a place inside of us unresolved we are energetically feeding it. So much of us goes to these past places instead of creating what we really would desire in this reality. The strength of creating a successful reality here is supported by how much of us we can bring in right here, right now.

Below are some ideals of what to investigate when resolving our past and some tools that I found to be effective.

Where does this go back in my past? Where is the original source of it? It is the first question I ask. Sometimes we may have a memory directly related to the incident. Other times we may logically know where it began such as; “I know my lack of receiving began with my father because he was always in fear of not enough money.” We can begin to explore how we integrated that limitation in to our life. In a situation like this we may not know exact incidents because there were so many, resulting in a widespread effect on our lives. Or we begin by recalling the most major incidents to begin the process and the minor incident may later reveal them selves.

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As we become adept at processing we will come to discover that our active memories do not hold all of the information needed in order to process this material. Memory is a mind and body process. It is good to request both to recall.

As we put forth our intention to look at our past the memories will come up. Stories of our past will appear. What happens other times is that we will receive only glimpses of the past. We know that the energy of the memory is there such as pain or sadness is there but we do not know how or where it was created.

As we explore a limitation ask your body and mind questions of how it was created. It can be a simple as asking, “Body, what was the sensation and memory of me at age three when I fell and broke my arm?” Allow the memories to come up from your intuitive self to guide you. You may receive a flash of a message or a gut reaction to a situation when you explore an experience. Trust the information. It is your body giving you input.

The body memory feels different than what your mental memory. First it usually comes up into our stomach or heart area into your head. Or it is a straight visceral body sensation like tension in your lower intestines. For example I asked my body to re-identify what it was like when I almost drowned at age two. I immediately felt a traumatizing sensation in my body. Since that request I have spent meditations being present with the energy of that trauma and nurturing that part of me that is still living in the fear of the past incident.

Like my drowning incident some things began at such an early age that we have no cognitive memory with it. We have to trust our body memory for a recollection of the experience. It will generally be a visceral experience of the memory although I know some people that do receive visual memories.

These are very important to explore because our first years of life are generally our strongest influence upon us. These memories often are stored in our stomach and lower intestinal areas.

When we ask about a memory of our past and we should pay attention to our lower abdominal areas and what suddenly appears in our conscious mind. It may be only a glimpse of a memory. Respect it as valid. Body memories are not clear like the ones held in our minds. However the short messages from are body may grow into something with more clarity. It is somewhat like resolving a mystery as you receive bits and pieces of your past.

The important aspect of being free of or past is having the awareness of what occurred. It is the biggest part of the work. When you have the clarity of what happened it opens us to see the bigger picture of how we unconsciously and consciously create our present day life. Our power is in our knowing.

One part of my life was not progressing at the same way that was my resentments towards others. It seemed as much as I was creating ease, joy and glory in my life an anger towards others, my past and worst, the people that I cared for the most was always working against my growth. It was one of those places that I could not resolve; therapy, inner exploration and the standard access clearings seemed to not work. My resentments and mistrusts were always a monkey on my back that never fully went away.

My girlfriend who is very perceptive told me that there is a deep rage within me that I had yet to explore. She could feel it and it made her feel uncomfortable. I responded, “I’m not that angry! Sure I have my resentments but that is not inner rage. Besides, I have gone into my childhood and I understood the abuses that occurred to me. I have come to peace with them.”

My girlfriend did not share my point of view. She was leaving for two months to work in another country and asked that I explore those hidden places within me. Respectfully I began to look into that process.

A friend gave me some good advice about anger, “Allow it, and don’t judge it, experience it and it will go.” It was a good start but there was more that I needed.

A few days later I was listening to an Access CD by Gary Douglas on the topic of Anger. As usual Gary said something that was profoundly what I needed to hear. He said, “I would keep pushing into the barriers and open up my woundedness, experiencing the intensity that most would label as pain. Each time I did and allowed it to be I found within me a greater power and a bigger being.”

In an instant I knew that was what I needed to know. With that nugget of knowledge I embarked on a fearless journey within me. I was beginning a nine-day spring break holiday and since my girlfriend was gone I would have a lot of time to myself.

Whenever resentments, anger or a heavy feeling would pop into my mind I would stop and ask a question, “What is this about?” Then I would sit and wait. The energy of the anger would appear much like Gary described. I would feel the intensity of the experience and most of the time the memories of the past would come to mind. Instead of judging it I would feel it as fully as possible and embrace the experience.

After a while I would ask, “Is there a deeper origin to this anger and where is the source of that?” I would wait again. Generally a new intensity of energy would appear and after waiting I would get the information of what happened to create it. It appeared that my body wanted me to release this and was doing whatever it took to guide my awareness to it. When I released the anger my body always felt better, more vibrant. The older suppressed anger was generally more intense but I used the same strategy of allowing it to be. Then after I perceived that I had experienced all of it I would begin doing Access clearings on the repressed energetic experiences.

After I did the clearings I would experience a huge release that felt great. In a few days I found that suddenly I was having hardly any resentments. I also found that my mistrusting feelings towards others were diminishing as well. I was just happy and content. What I discovered that almost all of my day-to-day frustrations had an origin from the past and really had little to do with my present day challenges. It felt like nothing really bothered me anymore or for least very long.

It was amazing experiencing my traumas that I had feared all of my life. I had created so many internal messages to avoid from these ‘bad’ memories and repressed them even more. What I had learned is that these memories became an energetic implant that manipulated me to draw in more fears, dramas and anger as a way to reenenergize the older pain. When they cleared it felt like a removing the bottom blocks of a pyramid my limitations were crashing down all around me.

Within a few weeks my body was feeling completely different. It was light like an inner space had opened. When I did meditations or communing with nature it felt as if I was truly a part of the forest or the universe it self. A cosmos was happening within me, I began to perceive more of what the god source within was like for me. The suppressed angers were like energetic boulders that cut off my receiving to this infinite reality and probably much more. Now I can access this expanded self any time I choose to be it.

As I work with others using these tools I see radically dynamic results. Access had always worked in big ways but clearing the suppressed anger got to the core of so many issues with people. They happily reported stories of how much happier and expanded their lives were. I delighted in their accomplishments.

Interestingly my business immediately picked up to a new level. Suddenly people began to come to see me out of nowhere. The big inner space of me was pulling them in. My life has been growing in a wonderful way with less effort, with more joy and abundance.

Bart Sharp Is an Access facilitator who has worked with a variety of people on the issues of anger. Using the tools of Access Energy Transformation Bart is able to facilitate the release of anger at an energetic/cellular level that is permanent. Check out his website and CDs for sale at www.bartsharp.com. Look for his book, “The Healing Planet” on Amazon.com.

The problem is that most of us were not taught to be present with our anger in some way or form. Some of the more common themes that we create of a distorted view of anger are: good children don’t get mad, a dominating force over us to create submission, or confronting anger with more anger. What they all have in common is a basis in fear and not allowing that person to express them selves in a constructive way.

If we are present and acknowledge our own anger it is often enough. Although there are times of acting on your anger is needed. But, in this world of manners and consequences when we go beyond boundaries of social mores we are sometimes stuck without an opportunity to express ourselves. The most important thing to remember in these situations is that we express and process our anger in some way. Most of the time all of what is required is to explore it either alone, with a friend or in a therapeutic setting.

For those who have had a history of suppressing anger they may not be as aware that they are angry. It may be some time later that they realize that there were angry. They may have suppressed their feelings with years of rationales and justification of why they should not be angry that it takes a very strong event to occur before they feel angry. This group was probably taught in some aversive way that feeling or expressing anger is not OK and/or safe.

For those that express anger in an overly aggressive way. It is a fear of being the person down or hurt that they are avoiding. They took the perspective it is better to dominate than suppress.

What the two perspectives have in common is a fear (for most part unconscious) to be present with the anger that they experience. The reaction is different, one projects it out to others and the other brings it inward. It is important to not judge either viewpoint as more right or wrong, better or worse. People choose differently due to their environment, upbringing, sibling order, and other variables.

The first step in breaking out of your own cycle is the realization that it is your own creation. The people that influenced you to be a certain way did not create you or your limitations. Some though had very few choices but to express anger by suppressing or dominating. It is important not to judge you as wrong for what you have chosen.

The freedom begins in you identifying how you react to anger. It is seeing the patterns that you have created. What are the triggers or situations that stimulate you to dominate with anger or suppress it? What are the dynamics of your past that are creating the patterns that you are living now? Was it a dominating parent, or a passive influence? It is good to start with an analytic look.

When you can begin to see the dynamics of the situations that you have grew up with and are currently living in it is time to take it to another step. Begin look at the stressful incidents of your life to feel what it is like in your body. Where are the intensities of these memories stored? Does your stomach tense when you relive these memories? Is the upset of a memory stored in our solar plexus? Our body holds these memories energetically and these suppressed fears unconsciously influence us to recreate the situation again and again. It is our body’s way of trying to resolve these issues. There are easier ways.

Our mind on the other hand reacts to the unconscious influence that the suppressed anger or fear is recreating. It will respond to a present day situation with the intensity that we were experiencing with a suppressed anger from childhood. That is why we are triggered to be overly angry in a situation and not understand why. It is the same mechanics of why we do not understand why we are depressed or have anxiety attacks.

The process of letting go of these distressed memories is feeling the intensity of the past anger without judging it. To feel it as fully as possible, perceive what it is like to perceive all of the rage and fury. It is important to remember not to fear or judge it (how bad and awful it was). Be an observer of the situation. You are starting the process of letting it go.

In addition to the above exploratory processes I like using the tools of Access Energy Transformation because thoughts, beliefs, and emotions are cleared on a cellular level. When we can find the deep energetic memories of these events a huge release of the suppression can be released permanently and quickly. It is a process of identifying the anger, feeling it and clearing it. It is very effective to change your limitations with anger.