By Bart Sharp

All too often we reflect upon a painful relationship, we begin to think about the good parts, the bad parts, what the other person did to hurt us and other things.  We generally try to resolve most things in our heads, to figure out what happened, to find why and how we created the painful relationship.  The story goes on and seems to never end.  How do we find our freedom from living in this distress?

Two perspectives give us more freedom from the painful relationship.  First we have to confront what we did to create that kind of relationship in the first place.  When we realize the dynamics of what we created, the roles we played in the relationship and how we did that, we open us to a new perspective.  We have to find out what our part was and come to terms with it.  Generally when we discover our limitations we receive a surge of joy in our completion.

We never find our epiphanies through finding fault in the other person.  That is their responsibility not ours.

Second when we can let go of the stories of what was good and bad about the relationship and let go of those judgments we made of the other and ourselves and look at what we gained in the development of what we learned in our heart we gain our biggest resolution.  We look to see how much we grew in our ability to love another, we begin to open inside.  This is the real stuff that we created the relationship for in the first place.  It is what our heart and soul grew into and learned in the relationship.  It is why we love, to grow in heart.

When we embrace this perspective it leads us to gratitude to have experienced something so precious.  After this the anguish is never as heavy or feels the same.  We acknowledge the real truth of us in that our essence is love.

By Bart Sharp

We have been brought up to believe that we live in a solid world that has a strict measurement of what is time and what is space.  We have clocks, calendars, rulers, computers and a variety of instruments making sure these areas are well defined and are not to change in our lifetime or awareness.

However time and space are not exactly that conformed, we do step out of their boundaries from time to time without realizing it.  It is in those spontaneous events that we enter into the reality of simultaneity and slip out of time into something more special.  As I have observed this phenomenon in my life and from others stories of when time and space seems to change its perspectives.  I see certain characteristics that seem to be there.  And I suspect the more we live in these spaces time and space hold an entirely different reality for us.

Gratitude, when we are open and sincerely grateful we slip into a special awareness.

Communion with a higher power, the more intimately we are connected we step outside the box.  Would god live in such a limited paradigm as time and space?

Communing With Nature, see above but replace god with nature.  Check Out my book The Healing Planet  for more info.

Joy, when we feel all of us is whole and complete we begin to let go of this regiment we call limited life. We see the potential of living life without boundaries or believe we will always be able to move beyond them.  We begin to slip out of time and space.

Our hearts completely open with another, few people experience this deep intimacy as it requires us to be defenseless and totally open with another.  Egos aside in unconditional love.  If two can achieve it what a power, as two heads are better than one.

If we can be in these types of awareness and other ones like them we began the process of becoming a higher vibration.  We then begin to step into a higher dimensional awareness and go beyond time and space.  One spontaneous step at a time.

When you thank some one be present to the sensation in your body. It is a message beyond words that can be consciously directed in a more potent way. Be focused on your heart opening while you speak. It is a state of being that is open and vulnerable that creates energy more powerful than your words could ever convey. This state of being brings more connection to your own body so when you are thanking there is more presence in your eyes and face. It conveys to the recipient that they are important.

The real action occurs in the heart. We are sending out something of our natural essence to the person and our heart is the door opening out to give a more infinite energy to the receiver. It is simply done by being willing to be open and staying present to our heart/body consciousness. It is not necessary to push the energy of your gratitude out but be present with it. Our heart will know what to send and how much, we just need to make the choice to be opened.

The process of gratefully thanking someone opens us up to receive the gift as well. We open not only to the infinite part of us and connect to another person’s higher self but we are sending a message to our body that we are willing to more honest with who we are to others. To let ourselves be in a defenseless position, to move our ego out of the way to communicate in a higher form of awareness.

Of course we do not have to limited heart communication to just thanking others, it can be in anything we say. It is an unconditional messaging that we just stay open.