By Bart Sharp

“Mommy I am not enough for you!” The young daughter cried. The mother looked upon her daughter with frustration and bewilderment thinking, “ I was just asking her to take a bath and telling her the value of it. Why was she reacting in such an extreme way?” This is an experience friend of mine had with her daughter a few days ago.

The real question was, “ What was the little girl not saying that was expressed through her statement of angst?” As children do not always have the tools or capacities to express how they feel, so it comes out skewed instead. To be able understand the situation we cannot judge the content of what the girl said but ask what she could not express. The fact of the matter is the young lady’s father had been experiencing much failure and stress in his personal life. The daughter was a witness to his challenges. It was too much for her accept that her father was an extreme emotional pain. The best strategy that she could create was to perceive the best in her father and repress her own fears.

The repressed feelings of her father’s angst needed to come out somehow and generally they are expressed with the person we feel safest with such as a parent, sibling, friend or spouse.  Since the little girl had not identified what her fear was it came out when stressful interaction occurred with her mother.

When we interact with children or adults who have become reactionary our 1^st response should be a willingness to perceive into their world. To know that the expression of the negative emotion most likely has nothing to do with us but is letting out an deeper feeling inside. If we can listen without becoming defensive we may be able to see into their world. To be a witness to their pain and stress. When we do see them in pain that opens the door to a compassionate interaction. The child is not wrong for having the expression, they are in pain. Then we can explore that process with them or allow them to express the pain.  If a child or an adult can get to the source of why they are discombobulated then we are on the road to healing with that person in a greater way.

By Bart Sharp

When people are raised in homes where they are shamed by their parents to such an extreme degree they grow-up in a state of toxic shame, (being shamed to such a degree that if effects someone in significant ways).  One-way people who grow up in a toxic shame environment is living in a defensive position in all interactions.

Someone who I never relish spending time with but fate puts me with them is the person who is always right.  I know someone embodies this.  As I hear the stories of his life it is an ongoing barrage of his great achievements and insights.   The man is never wrong or at least shares it.  Looking at his life of ongoing conflicts with co-workers, alcoholism and a failed marriage there is plenty of room for growth.  Why isn’t this person seeing their shortcomings and putting the focus there?

The reason being is that this person has defended his life from the point of view that he is right and leaves little room for admitting mistakes.  When we acknowledge our shortcomings we open to a new possibility of seeing something new in our selves; how we made the mistake.  As long as we are right we will never see a different possibility.

In some respects being wrong is a power to move beyond our old self and into something greater.  Being willing to admit our wrongness creates vulnerability, an opened state.  We see so much more.  When the ‘right minded person’ has a conflict it usually means that the other person has to confess their wrongness for the confrontation to be resolved.  It usually is a defensive struggle of position and verbal force instead of exploration and growth.

Anyone who is an inventor knows mistakes are a part of the process before the great discovery is found.   However, many people lose this perspective when relating to them selves, their defenses automatically go up when there is a slight possibility of them being label as wrong.  Like the person I know, their fear of being accused that they are lesser than another is huge inside of them.  In this case the insanity of toxic shame creates the unconscious fear that if you are found wrong a great humiliation will happen.  That fear lurks inside of them influencing the person to defend them selves by being right at all costs. An unconscious underlying fear created from childhood that existed in a toxic shame environment.  When we begin to look at the ways we had to defend ourselves in a shaming home environment we start freeing ourselves from our unconscious patterns.

By Bart Sharp

The parasympathetic nervous system is a part of the central nervous system.  Doctors tell us that the parasympathetic nervous system is active when we are sleeping however it is also active when we are in states of meditation, relaxation and trance.  It is also suggested that when we are awake and in that relaxed parasympathetic state we are in a place of consciousness that nurtures and heals our body.

The opposite of this perspective is the sympathetic that is active when we are doing and awake.  Other qualities of the sympathetic nervous system is it is connected to the stress, trauma, anger and other negativity sensations we experienced through the day.  For many the sympathetic nervous systems have been trained to function with our adrenal glands for us we learned to function in a nervous, slightly traumatized, adrenal charged state.  It is the state of being that creates much of our illness.

When we have some sort of daily practice of meditation or prayer that calms and centers us we train our body to stay in parasympathetic nervous system energies more of our waking hours.  In this relaxed state we are actively healing our body during waking and sleeping hours.  A more generative flow occurs that nurtures all phases of our life, so it brings the same revitalizing power in all of what we are creating.

It is good for all phases of our life to meditate regularly and do things that deeply relax us like walking quietly in the forest.  Get to know what your body feels like especially your back area where our parasympathetic nervous system’s nerve energy is located and be able to recreate it as much as possible.  We can live in this relaxed nurturing place that prolongs our life and heals us all of the time.

By Bart Sharp

Toxic shame is when we are raised in a home where we are placed in situations that we are controlled in an abusive way/s that create our self image as less than.  We create us in a false way to be able to fit into a dysfunctional home environment and lose a part of the truth of who we are as a result.  Those who have had toxic shame as children and then as adults are in a shaming environment we revert back to those old behaviors through out our life.  We can break the patterns created in a toxic shameenvironment by addressing our shamed child within us.

I recently worked with a woman who seemed to be in kind of a shock.  She told me the word that described her self was ungrounded.  Especially in situations that were stressful with others, she could not have the focus to speak her own mind.  She also found it difficult to remember details such as what she had read, the information appeared to pass right through her.

As we explored her life she told me of her mother and father and the unsafe environment that she grew up in.  She had little control with two parents who were intimidating and sometimes physically punitive.  It made the young girl feel overwhelmed with her interactions with the parents.  She was always nervous that she would do or say the wrong thing leaving her with a sometimes overwhelming anxiety.

The most brilliant thing she could do, as a protective device was to bring her awareness outside of herself as the little girl’s mind and spirit left in some ways.  She went out of her present state of being to function in daydreams, fantasies and in states of minor shock.  The benefit was that the painful experiences with her parents were not so intense.

Being partially disembodied or out of body is a common experience for those who grew up in stressful homes and/or were abused in some way as children.  It is a defensive mechanism that directs us away from feeling so much of the pain back then. Often these people as adults are triggered by the same behaviors that they experienced as children.  For example, my client would become extremely nervous and would begin to stutter when people began to raise their voice, she lost her concentration.  The belittlement in her childhood was the toxic shame that would always guide her back to the behaviors of her past.   Also these people who ‘go out of themselves’ are often more psychic and/or more in tune with their surroundings.  They often develop their intuitive abilities as a way to predict aggression in their environment.

I began to work with the ashamed young girl that existed within the woman, those places that were suppressed deep inside that created the need to go out of her body.  Many of these were fractured parts of the woman existed.  As an intuitive therapist I began to help her identify the body memories of these suppressed experiences to find the part of the girl/woman separated. For example as she talked about how her mother yelled at her we could feel the tension in her stomach react to the recalled memory then we would begin the journey of finding a part of her that left as a result to the traumatizing experience with mom.  When the split part was reintegrated the tension in the stomach permanently went away and the person felt more present in themselves when around intimidating people.

By reliving the childhood experience my client learned how to feel them again inside of her as they resurfaced.  When the past energetic memories came back she had an opportunity to begin clearing them herself or with me.  The woman’s anxieties and fears continued to be relived as her body showed these old stressed memories to her, such as a tension in her stomach.  They were the same places she felt them as a child when her parents mistreated her.   Now the woman did energetic clearings to shift the memories to a neutral experience so they would no longer trigger her to being anxious or to stutter.

As dozens of these traumatized parts resolved the woman became more present within herself, her body felt better and happier.  Through several weeks of work she was able to be present when others were angry and loud.  The ashamed disembodied places inside of her were integrated back and she did not revert to the nervous stutter when the stress was on. The woman’s actions to the toxic shame of her childhood had changed greatly and she was enjoying the fruits of it.

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“Releasing Your Anger, Claiming Your Potency”

By Bart Sharp

Monday, Oct. 17th and 24^th 7:30 PM

$50 or $30 per class  RSVP by 10-16

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Anger is often the source of: failures in relationship, depression, addiction, illness, inappropriate aggressions and more.  Learn how you can begin to get to the source of these limitations and let them go for good!

In this two-part series we will explore and release suppressed anger that is stored in our body memory.  This class is an inner journey of discovering how you have stored your angers and the self-sabotaging blocks within you. Resulting in a break through to a more joyful, whole life.

You will learn to perceive where you have stored your emotional blockages of anger inside your body and how to release them.

When we permanently release this suppressed anger from our past we benefit by having: more personal power, more presence in us more energy and are a more happier person.

Suppressed anger or anger expressed in aggressive ways is a dominating limitation for so many, we do not have to hold this kind of burden anymore.  Come learn tools that you can use to dramatically change your life.

Handouts on how to release anger on your own are included.

By Bart Sharp

I recently became angry with one of my neighbors.  At the time it was quite distressing but I knew that I would not be getting so angry with the issue at hand if it did not have previous experiences similar to the incidents.  True I was angry at my neighbor I knew my consciousness was offering me an opportunity to discover a deeper limitation in my own little anger disorder.  As I felt the raging discomfort in my stomach and heart I used common anger management techniques; I yelled in pillows to release the most immediate anger and mentally processed the emotions.  However I as I felt a dense discomfort on the left side of my colon I knew there was something deeper that was stimulated from the conflict and my body wanted to reveal it to me.  This was suppressed way down inside me; my intuition told me this was would take some time.

The above story is a good example of how we can use our anger disorder for our benefit.  According to John Bradshaw the definition of anger is an energy to take action.  This is true in an outward way.  However, we can use anger on an inner journey to discover a greater repressed painful memory.

In this situation I knew the incident with my neighbor stimulated a deeper anger because the intensity of the experience did not match to incident’s intensity.  It was much greater and deeper.  I was enraged for something that was not that big of a deal.  Second I felt an area in my colon become inflamed and heavy.  That was the energetic memory of my past that was re-stimulated.

Now, I had the opportunity to take my anger and focus it inward on my past memory.  If I did this my anger with my neighbor would resolve within me as well.  I began the process of meditating with my angry area and asking what it had to reveal to me.   I did this as a daily exploration and each day I found new information about my past going back to my earliest childhood experiences.

What it required of me was to maintain my attention to my colon, open my heart and allow the memories to come up.  They literally felt as if they were coming out of my colon and then to the cerebral area.  Then I would do energetic clearings on the topic and forgive all those involved.  Within a couple of days of maintaining my inner acknowledgment of anger the deepest memory came up.  Once it was released my angry colon area immediately became relaxed and there was no more inflammation.  I felt whole inside and joyous.  I felt OK about my neighbor as well.

This success would not have occurred if I have not acknowledge that my anger was a tool for me to go inside and discover a big issue.  I gave it permission to stay active inside me until all of the answers arose and were released.  Anger makes a demand of us to take action whether it be though something direct or an inner resolution.  When anger arises inside of me I listen to it let it guide me in my life to resolution.

By Bart Sharp

Unrequited love is not returning love in how it was given to us.  This concept is especially true with those who were abuse by their parents and the love they received was much lesser than whole.  The abused child harbors the shame and anger from the abusive relationship.  It is their challenge in their adult life to find an identity in loving themselves even if it was not given or taught to them.  If not the abused adult will most likely repeat the patterns of abuse in an active or passive way.

According to John Bradshaw our negative emotions do serve a purpose.  Anger is an emotion to create an impetus to take action.  Guilt is an energy to repair our mistakes and do better.  Shame is a motivating energy to seek a higher spiritual direction.  Of these three emotions shame is generally the underlying emotion that is the strongest influence to remain in a dysfunctional pattern.  However if we transform our shamed self, of how we were defined as lesser than, unworthy we open to the reality of a higher love for ourselves than leads us to a more evolved spiritual being.

Most importantly forgiveness for our parents or the abuser occurs at a more genuine level, we can give them a love they never gave us.  When we find healing within us we are capable of giving love from a place that is abundant and given freely.  Love is evolved to a higher level, unrequited love.  When we give that to our abusers at every age we unlock the chains of our abuse and somewhere in the abusers universe we open their life to more freedom.

A great example of Unrequited Love, of someone aspiring beyond their own pain to give a greater love to those who gave him less is Nelson Mandela. Imprisoned for years by the white South African people Nelson came out of prison to soon be the president of South African.  Yet his message was never about revenge but unification, two cultures growing together.  Mandela embraced his white countrymen, the same who imprisoned him to create something greater for everyone in the country.

By Bart Sharp

Sometimes when we feel we are stuck in our personal growth we are close to breaking through to something greater in our therapeutic progress.  It may feel like we are totally in our limitations when actually we are making great personal progress.  Like the saying goes, “The darkest hour is right before the dawn.”

One of my clients told me that after doing sessions with me he was feeling more anger and rage than he had experienced in years in his spiritual growth.  He saw the sessions as counterproductive, however it was really progress in his personal development.  Finally my client was feeling what was occurring in his body, anger and shame.

Children who are shamed, aggressed upon or live in fear, there is the one thing that many of these young ones are not permitted to express is anger.  They have a knowing back then that the situation would only become worse if they asserted themselves.  It is a brilliant strategy to stay out of the way.  Many children do this but unfortunately shame themselves later for it.  As a result the anger then is suppressed even deeper in their psyche and body.  There it is held suppressed as a part of their unconscious.

This type of suppressed anger becomes an unconscious influence in our life guiding us to health issues, addiction, depression and more.  So many of my clients do not come to me to resolve anger but other by-products that are created from suppression of emotions.  Many do not realize the rage that is within them.  However when the issues are explored and cleared the anger and rage began to come up.

It is predictable for anger to reappear because the body desperately wants us to let this huge weight go.  Repressed anger and rage is a degenerating force inside of us.  When we begin the process of exploration to resolve the past the body brings the energetic memories of the old show angers up.

My client’s body was so ready so ready for him to release his rage that it came up in prolific ways.  Unfortunately it scared him and he stepped back from doing therapeutic work.  After time he realized this and came back to do my personal work.  When we feel the angst and/or in crises it is the perfect time to go deeply into the situation.

When we have issues from our past come up, look at them as an opportunity to permanently release pains of the past.  Our body and unconsciousness is trying to present this to us.  We have the possibility to change if we choose to continue to do the self-improvement work.

We hold all of our life’s experiences through our body memory.  Included in the recording is the emotional memory along with the imprinting of the event in the cellular structure of our body.  The emotional memory can be happiness we experience, the sadness, the anger or the trauma paired together with the memory of the experience.  We store all of this away not only in our mind but in the body as well.

The emotional memory seems to affect the well being of the cells as well.  For example if we have both the cellular memory trauma or body memory of abuse from the experience in the body, the cells are not as healthy.

We also seem to hold emotional experiences in certain areas of our body that pertain to the experience.  For example if we stuff our resentments of anger we may hold the memories in our abdominal areas or not express our anger the energy may be repressed in our throats.  If we have lots of unresolved crises and live in that kind of cellular memory trauma it may be held in our heart.

They may fester creating abnormal cells and are the impetus for disease in our bodies.

A friend of mine years back told me his dysfunctional behavioral patterns were so ingrained in him that it would take the rest of his life to change the way they were hardwired in his body.  This was said in the days that we used only our intellect to process our emotional sufferings.  I believed it was true in those days.

However since then I have learned that the cellular memory of emotional pain can be released.  We can have energetic transfers in both directions.

There are many body-based therapies out there but I like using Access Energy Transformation to release cellular memory.  Since I have been using these tools in my life the vitality, health and flexibility in my body has improved dramatically.  Incidents of sickness have greatly reduced.  I have more energy because there are less parts of me holding my suppressed past that seem to block or inhibit my energy flows.  I have seen tremendous changes in my clients as well.

I am a believer in body-based therapies as one of the integral tools to let go of a limited past and step into our lives with more health, energy and joy.