A Strange Story

By Bart Sharp

I was surfing on the Internet when I saw a photo of a dog being used as shark bait.   This defeated but beautiful animal had two large hooks protruding out of his nose.  It was distressing to view the photo as I tried to stay unattached by not judging how it disgusted me.

I left the site and went on about the day only to have the image return to my memory.  I was patient with the vision but as the afternoon wore on I was becoming weary of the image.  Every time its vision came up a tension clutched into my stomach and I felt uncomfortable in my nasal area where the hooks were sunk into the animal.

It soon became like an obsession, an internal conflict that I knew was deeper than the photo was creating this.   Unfortunately I could not figure out hat that source was.  Did it relate to abuse?  Anger?  My father’s fishing trips?  Nothing resonated.  I was lost and this image was becoming more dominating in my mind.

I knew that my body was trying to communicate to me an unpleasant past memory that I had suppressed.  I could not find it.  It was getting worse as I could feel the hook prongs in the roof of my mouth, not painful but irritating.  I exercised patience as the image continued; I knew that this was just an energetic memory that could not harm me.  At the same time I could see a picture of the roof of my mouth splitting apart.  Both images of the dog and my mouth were coming up randomly in my mind.

The next day I was sharing this with a friend who said, “Maybe it is a literal meaning that you are missing.”  He asked me, “What are you finding unpalatable in your life?”

Instantly I knew he was spot on.  I had a disagreement with my girlfriend and had not been able to express myself.  There was certain energy to that response but my hunch told me there was something deeper than my argument that had been triggered.

I began to ask my body questions to where am I suppressing the deeper memory.  I first asked what age did I create this memory.  I was guided to that dreaded age of twelve years old, the seventh grade.  Oh yes there are plenty of things I could and would not tell to others during that time in my life.  I felt the tightness in my stomach and the image of my splitting palette increase to confirm my thoughts.

Yes I knew the stories of that time, the trials and tribulations of a stage in life that I’d rather forget.    This type of exploration was not new to me as I help others release these type of limitations using the tools of Access Energy Transformation.  I had not dealt with such odd images representing the limitation before.   One thing was for sure, I was ready to let go of this one.  Junior High School has never been a pleasant place to explore.

The process for me is to feel where the energy of the limitation manifests and in this situation it was stuck in my mouth and stomach.   The deepest part of the angst was in my stomach.  Generally, it is where I hold so much of my suppressed anger and other emotions.   I spent much of my time angry at age twelve and thirteen but the sensations of this dense rock shaped energy felt like guilt as well.   I had blamed myself greatly for all of the things that overwhelmed me in that time of my life.

I sat patiently and perceived the stressed areas in my stomach.  Each stressed area has a different quality in its shape, density and feel.  There are areas in where it is harder and softer.  As I explored this energy the top half that was in my solar plexus felt slightly inflamed like when I am angry and lower half into the back of my stomach was much heavier like a hard knot.

As I placed my attention onto this area the stories of my 7^th grade life re-revealed them selves.  With each story re-stimulating my energetic ball-shaped memory.  With each memory I would allow the story to come up, not to judge it but be present with it.  I allowed each story to stimulate the inflamed area, as it would give me more information of what this seventh grade reality was really like.  The stories stimulated anger, rage, fear, and beliefs of how I was wrong and how I sent out those projections to my classmates and teachers at that time.

When it felt like that phase of the exploration was complete I placed my attention on the hard, dense area in the lower part of my stomach.  With my focus fully on this area I asked, “Is there a shadow side to this that I am hiding away in?”

The question opened a greater truth within as a lighter fluffy energy was exposed below the hard place in my stomach.  It was the underlying energy of the limitation, the shadow side of it.  In my mental vision I began to explore this dark world that looked like darken, slices of elongated flower petals slowly wavering in a black etheric world all existing inside of me.

I ventured into the darkness not knowing what I would find.  I was seeing the shadows of the flowing petals but unable to perceive finer details.  I was searching in a shadowy darkness looking with my senses to identify energies living in this world.  I was looking for an old energy of me.

All the while the roof of my mouth was creating the image of skin splitting apart.  It was giving the message that something was very wrong in my body.

After a few moments I felt something about two feet below me, hiding in the reed like shadows below my buttocks.  It was an orb shaped energy that felt like me.  My presence came to the orb and I perceived into it with a vision that did not use my eyes but my inner imaging.  Hidden away was this sad young man who felt inadequate, alone with the belief that it was his fault.   The underlying energy of this shadow persona was guilt.  The anger and rage experienced in the stomach was only a reaction to the guilt.

I began to talk to this part of me, telling him that he is no longer in the seventh grade.  It was not his fault; it was just a tough time.  He does have permission to let go of this less than satisfying past.  Then I invited this part of me to let this shadow world go and come live in my life in the present.  This old energy could reintegrate into my heart.

With that said the past energetic memory dissolved and I felt a surge of energy in my heart.  It made the transition immediately.  The tense shape in my stomach dissipated instantly.  The roof of my mouth suddenly felt normal again.  The images of the dog left.  I felt complete in myself, energized from the transfer.  When I think of the dog or the splitting palate in my mouth it has no charge, just an image that goes as quickly as it comes.   If we can find the lies and fears of our past we can transform them by bringing them up to the light of our awareness.  Access Energy Transformation helps in this process clearing out blocks that limit our inner vision.

I know that my body will always bring up issues that I am ready to let go of.  That is how it works.  However it usually does not come up in such an unusual obsession.  As I evolve and continue to be open to self-exploration deeper challenges will rise up.   The experience of the seventh grade was finally ready to change.   I am glad my body and higher self have the ability to bring it up my limitation to my awareness.  My on-going job is to pay attention to them and be willing to change.

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By Bart Sharp

The other day a client, Deborah called and asked if she was receiving the ‘evil eye’ from someone.  It felt true.  We quickly identified the person, her mother-in-law, who was psychically intruding into her world.

We began to explore the dynamics of why this person was attacking her.  We discovered the woman was jealous of my client.

Jealously can motivate people to do a variety and non-active things.  Jealousy can be a combination of emotions with the basis of its source fear and often with an underlying emotion of shame.  In this situation an aggressive form of anger was present.  The in-law was projecting anger at my client.

Deborah was a highly intuitive young woman whose highly refined abilities could sense the energy of someone penetrating her energetic being.  However, she was reacting as if something was wrong with herself or her body.  Deborah felt the imbalance within her yet did not consider the cause was from someone attacking her.  She felt that she had created it.  By judging the energy as something was wrong with her Deborah’s stomach and colon starting aching.

The situation was so unusual that she began to speculate that someone had placed a spell upon her.  She then called me.

One of the common application of spells are a mental projection.  In other words someone consciously focuses on another while feeling an emotion, (often anger through aggressiveness).  For most attackers they are mostly unaware that they are attacking another, they are simply obsessed with their own angry.  There are some with the intention of hurting another.

Some people have the power to affect another thru psychic attacks yet do not understand what they are doing.  Deborah’s mother-in-law fit into this category.  She could not let go of the notion that her daughter-in-law was the attention of her son’s love.

I processed the experience with Deborah and when she realized where the attack was coming from and was willing to stop resisting her mother-in-law the pain in her abdominal area began to recede.  But the energies were totally not resolved.

I asked Deborah a question that stopped her in her tracks.   We had not gotten to the core of the pain.  “Are you willing to receive your mother-in-law’s jealousy?”

Deborah’s first reaction was no.  She shared with me that other people being jealous of her had always resulted in Deborah being victimized as a child.  As a result she had learned early in life to hide herself to not be seen, admired or in notoriety.  When she did her family members descended down upon her aggressively in some way.  As a result she had created a defensive position to others being jealous or in envy of her.

When Deborah realized how the fear of her past was creating the defensive position in the present the pain receded more.  We then began to do clearings around the defensive systems she had created and the discomfort totally diminished.

What we judge as bad or wrong and begin to defend ourselves from it we actually create an energy that attracts that specific energy.  Deborah was a magnet for others to resent her.  The more she tired to protect, she would create an opposite affect.  The reason being was Deborah attracted aggressive people to her because she judged them as bad and wrong.  There is something in our greater self that always attracts these situations that we fear as a way to get us to approach our fears.  It is why people seem to create the same kind of relationships again and again.

For Deborah receiving jealousy from her in-law and not resisting the woman opened Deborah to see another possibility.  As a child she could actually be hurt or judged by her siblings and mother when they were jealous of her.  It was not the case as an adult.  She could easily protect herself from her mother-in-law.  In fact Deborah was the person in power.  It has taken her a while to believe this.

Now Deborah is willing to receive the jealousy.  What opened for her is that she no longer is resistant to her mother-in-law and can see her as a different person.  Now she can have a different relationship with her in-law and others that are jealous and angry.

We that were raised in  angry or co-dependent home environments often bend over backwards as a response to parents or siblings.  The question we need to ask as adults when we feel this type of stress is, “Are we reacting from memories of the past or the present situation?”  Generally if it feels very uncomfortable than the situation should logically warrant, it is from our past.

The more that Deborah uncovers how she has created and defended her fears the more that she will not be the affect of others projects of jealousy, anger or other negating emotions.  It is a process of understanding us and willing to receive the awareness that our fears are hiding from us.

By Bart Sharp

Yes we all have the ability to feel other energies, read minds, project thoughts etc.  Like any talent there are many levels of skills.  The basic principal of being able to perceive thoughts and energies of others is that it begins by interpreting the messages that our body is telling us.  Our body is a dynamic sensory organ that is giving us thousands of bits of information in any given moment.  Yes there is the obvious stuff like, I’m hungry, or tired or stuff like that.  On a deeper level the body is telling us so much more.  It is a process of learning how to perceive its messages.

For most it is a process of creating an intimate communicative relationship with our body.  If you feel like you have no or little telepathic or psychic abilities, begin by asking your body questions in what it wishes.  Your body will give you some kind of signal of what it wishes.  A good place to start is by asking your body what it would like to eat.  I go down the list of options that I have.  When I say the food that my body wishes I feel a lighter sensation in my body.  If it feels light it is usually what is right for me.  The other foods usually have a heavier feel.  I usually feel this light sensation in my face.  Most likely you will feel it in a different location unique to you.

This a great tool to use in a variety of situations such as which exercise is right for you, where to go, what to drink, etc..  I use it as a regular tool in my decision making process.  When I communicate with my body I am connecting to an infinite source.  Our body is infinite.  It can tell us so much.

My body not only senses what is best for me, it perceives energies all around me, all of the time.  For example if we go into a store we pick up the energies of other people.  As you are there perceive the sensations that occur within you.  You may feel anxious for example when you enter.  You are perceiving someone else’s thought.  When you notice it just ask your body, “Who does that belong to?”  The energy will then release.

In my book The Healing Planet, at Amazon.com I teach how to perceive the energies of the forest.  The forest is a great place to learn how to perceive energies.  Trees have no defenses so they are quite easy to tune into.  Once you learn the energies of nature people are much easier to perceive.

The energy of trees, people, computers are much more complex than that of thoughts or language.  Thoughts and language are generally a denser energy that is what makes it a little more difficult to read.

In perceiving thoughts just let it happen.  Trust what shows up in your head is that of someone else.  If you are not sure, ask.  “Is this thought _____?”

One way I know the information is coming from my body is that the energy of the thought seems to come up from my stomach and not my head.  There is a definite energetic difference.

One day I was talking to an overweight friend of mine and during the conversation all I heard inside of me was “Fat! You’re fat! Fat! Fat! Fat!”  After we visited I wanted to judge me for having such thoughts but I stopped myself and asked, “Is this mine?”  No, it was her thoughts.  I asked my body some questions about it to find that she really was feeling insecure about her weight.

Now when I talk to people I feel many of the thoughts.  It is important to perceive it and not to judge it.   For example I may feel a lot of sexual thoughts from a heterosexual man.  It may be the repressed part of him that he is not willing to acknowledge or not.  When I judge it as good or bad that energy gets stuck in my body.   Or if I am doing energy work with someone who has been abused, giving him or her that non-judging space is very powerful in their healing.

Often I asked questions about situations or people.  For example my girlfriend I want to know how she is as she travels a lot.  “What is the energy of ______ right now?”  If the energy feels light in my body at that moment I know she is OK.  One time she was in Australia and I starting asking questions about her and I kept getting the energies of water in my body.  When I talked to her she told me the highlight of her trip was that she was swimming in the ocean every morning.  When I calculated the time differences I found I asked the question when she was doing her daily swim.

Telepathy is a subtle perception or energy.  Know that you do have the ability and trust what you perceive in your body.  Ask questions about it.  The more people claim it, the easier it is for everyone else to do.

Bart Sharp

The Healing Planet

By Bart Sharp

When we begin the journey of finding our past, discovering our shame, anger, beliefs of inadequacy we open to an inner power and magical life within us.

Mary Ann told herself that she could not take it anymore.  The working housewife felt taken for granted by her husband, high school aged son and daughter for her years of being a caring and loving mother and wife.  Mary Ann’s husband worked long hours at his business to come home tired.  Her children wanted independence and were striking out on their own. Now when she tried to help, each family member appeared to be resistant to Mary Ann intervening in his or her own way. Mary Ann had always been actively involved in her family’s lives and she felt an absence in herself due to her diminished role.  It had a cold and lonely feeling that felt hauntingly familiar to her past.

It was a fearful feeling of being moved out of her position of necessary mother to needed less that brought the fearful black feeling in Mary Ann’s stomach.  It felt so strongly because she had experienced that kind of sadness many times before as a child.  Mary Ann grew up in a household with a demanding father and a very passive mother who let Mary Ann become the mother of the household at an early age in a variety of ways.  Mary Ann seemed to be more ‘with it’ than her mother in knowing what was needed to be done.

It was not a truly satisfying position because Mary Ann became the household manager to ensure sanity and safety for her own life.  The motivation was out of fear, as Mary Ann was always on guard that her father would explode in rage or her mother would not provide what the family needed.

With that as her base experience in care taking Mary Ann found less joy in marriage and raising her children because the doubts of her past always influenced her to question or doubt herself.   Mary Ann’s resume as a caretaker was extensive, (she had done it all of her life).  Yet she always doubted her abilities.  Everyone in her family sensed this in some way and trusted Mary Ann less than she deserved.

Now at age forty with her children almost raised and her husband committed to an ever demanding schedule Mary Ann was uncertain what to do next.  She sought help.  One of the things she found was a few simple tools to guide her and over time, changed her life.

Mary Ann had learned that she had a variety of incidents in her childhood that were unresolved and these pains needed to healed.  The first stage was to identify and write the stories of her life and the wounds.  Mary Ann began this introspective process most every morning.

Through the process of writing Mary Ann created a vision of what it was like to be her as a child.  She had almost forgotten the patterns that she has previously created.  Now that they were in her present adult mind she could see how that little girl lived in fear and found caretaking as her protective device.  As a regular exercise Mary Ann would visualize the little girl that she once was sitting in her own lap.  She would visualize holding the girl and would tell her what she thought her little girl wanted to hear the most such as; “that she was loved, she was not responsible for everyone, she always was enough for her father”.

At first this exercise sounded silly but through time Mary Ann realized that the best person to give her love was her-self.  She needed to be caring and kind to her child self as well as her adult self.  Each time she nurtured her child self sometime felt more complete in her adult perspective.

A second practice that Mary Ann began is spending at least one hour a day doing something that was nurturing for her.  It might be gardening, art, walking on nature trails, decorating but the activity usually involve some aspect that was creative and stimulated that curious and aware spirit of Mary Ann.  Most importantly it was an activity that was done exclusively for her heart’s desire.  This was something Mary Ann never seemed to do before.  As she developed her repertoire of activities she began to think in ways of pleasing herself instead of the ever continual mind-think of how I can make my children’s, husband’s and parent’s life better.

Within a matter of months Mary Ann’s family began to notice mom was different.  She no longer seemed to be hovering over them.  Her children began to relax more around her.  Mary Ann was still available for them but through her family’s request.  They began to be attracted to Mary Ann because she was more fulfilled and fun.  Mary Ann had her own life to be excited about.

Mary Ann no longer is fed up.  She found that could look back at her life in curiosity and not fear.  At the age of forty she was ready for her own special adventures.

By Bart Sharp

One of the greatest sources of addiction, illness and depression is anger.  The conflicts with parents we have at an early age that are left unresolved are often the source of our ‘dis ease’.  The relationship often has love with a lie attached wherein the reoccurring suffering began.

Seamus was the oldest of four children and was seen as the favored child of his father.  As the oldest son he enjoyed a particular closeness to his father and often trailed his dad around their farm.  The relationship between father and son was for most part very close.  However there were times that the father would become very demeaning with Seamus for no apparent reason saying things such as, “I’m tired of looking at you, get out of here.”

The world of the six-year old boy would be devastated.  There was no consolation for the unexpected rejection from his father.

For the father he would become overwhelmed with the responsibility of providing and managing a family.  Times were tough and he felt the weight of the whole world on his shoulders.    As much as the father tried to be a positive leader he would react in negative aggressive ways to his children.  Much like the ways his own father treated him.  Seamus’ father swore he would never treat his children in that manner but found himself doing the things he had hated in his father.

For Seamus the shaming from his father at first made him feel desperately low.  The young boy would push his feelings aside continue in his normal routines.  In time Seamus stopped reacting in a suppressed passive tone but would express his negative feelings with his siblings.  He began to bully his younger brother and sisters.

Through the years an ever changing relationship of love and hate type of relationship developed between Seamus and his father.  At times they were very close but there were always incidents of conflict between the two usually resulting in verbal intimidation and physical punishment.  Seamus seemed to always create incidents to draw the trouble to him as if he wanted the conflict.

As an adult Seamus married.  He and his wife fought like he did with his dad.  It appeared that the couple could always find a new topic to disagree about or recreate an issue that they had not resolved.  Instead of seeking help from an outside source to find peace Seamus chose to numb his pain through drugs and/or alcohol.  It only made his problems worse.

The real addiction in Seamus’ life was anger.  He unconsciously either created conflicts with those he loved the most or found reasons to confront co-workers, friends or sometimes strangers.  In each incident Seamus found a justification of why to confront the person usually with the point of view that he was right and they were wrong.

Seamus would say that he did not like being angry.  Much like the conflicts he had with his father, he seemed to be a magnet for conflict.   A few times became physically violent.  He hated those fights.  However he continued to find himself pulled back in the fray once again.  At age fifty Seamus’ anger resonated in him almost all of the time, if he was not in a direct conflict Seamus was resentful of others in his life.  Having the fights never resolved the conflict so that he could permanently put those memories away.   The fights seemed to recreate a greater struggle in himself.

The source of Seamus pain was not with his wife, family or co-workers but back when he was a child.  It is the hurt caused from his father who belittled and shamed him with physical punishment and harsh criticism.  Then the father showed his son love by doing things together.  It was a conflictual message that anger and punishment were a part of love.  Seamus took this message and demonstrated it in his adult life with those he loved. However it did not bring him happiness.

As much as he tried Seamus could not break his cycle of anger.  It was the shame he experience from his father that was the original source of his anger.  The anger was only a reaction to his feelings of rejection from the person he wanted to please the most.

Since Seamus could not directly express his anger towards his father he created a pattern to express his aggression onto others.  He built years of rationales or judgments of ways he could be triggered into anger.  Life for Seamus had become a painful ongoing re-creation of his past angst to unconsciously dominate his life.

For Seamus the most beneficial therapy may be an invitation to that child part of himself to feel those feelings again and grieving his rejections.  Doing Access Energy work could be beneficial in that it can help Seamus release some of the repetitive patterns stuck in his body, cellular memories. It would be a process of identifying the stories of being shamed and angry, then feeling those experiences in his body.  Once the body memories have been identified the energetic releases of Access can create a permanent release of the painful memories.  The clearings would benefit Seamus in that he would not be triggered to react in anger.  Through multiple sessions Seamus would not be carrying the load of negative unresolved emotions and he could feel more freedom to experience life in a more joyful way.

The longer we hold onto anger and shame it will eventually create some kind of illness within us (physical and/or emotional).  If it is suppressed it is often held in places like our colon, intestines, kidneys, solar plexus and more.  The “dis ease” of these unresolved emotions is often the source of stress in our body parts that create disease in our body.

By Bart Sharp

I was recently doing an ghost and entity clearing in a home where the bedroom had an disturbing smell.  Whatever my client did to improve it would not change the odor of the room.  As we talked about her recent significant relationship she shared how once they had broken up it took a month before he could afford to move out of the apartment.

I asked, “Did your former boyfriend sleep in the bedroom after you broke up?”  She told me he slept in the room for a month after they had broken up.  In a flash it came to me why the odor and the negative energy in the room would not leave.  For the month he lay in the bed in his emotional distress about the break-up; angry, processing and resenting.  Much of those negative feelings went into the bed itself and remained dormant in the energy of everything in the room.  No one used the room since.

It was fairly easy to clear the energy and invite something new in.  The woman, the bedroom and bed wanted something else.  However until the limitation is recognized it cannot be released.  It remains.  However when we come clear of what it is and place our intentions on change, it can happen very quickly.

When we are thinking negative thoughts we are projecting them out as well.  We cannot internally hold what we feel inside.  The feelings emanate out of us for other people and things to absorb.  Like the man in the bedroom projected his anger out.  The bed, bedroom, apartment and former girlfriend were penetrated with it.  This is especially more powerful if the emotion is not resolved or is directed specifically towards someone or something.

A person who curses at their computer and is angry at it will more likely have computer breakdowns.  A sensitive electrical instrument is more susceptible to anger than most of our things.  Even plants will absorb negativity and have a shorter life.

It is another reason why we need to recognize the negating power of our anger whether it is suppressed or active.  It affects everything around us.

However. If we are joyous and have resolved our negativity at a deeper level we become the opposite.  Our homes are happy, plants grow, computers last longer and have better relationships.

We can clear our homes of negative energy and receive powerful results.  The real power is us and when we heal the source of us to find deep joy we share that awesome gift with the world just by walking in the world with it.

By Bart Sharp

Two friends Todd and Jerome were at the seemingly at the end of their relationship.  They created a business together and after almost five years had run its course to a dismal end.  There was numerous levels of blame to go around to each party and both men resented the mistakes the other had made.  Not only was the business ending but the friendship was on the last ends of disravel.

It seemed like both young men could tell the habits and moves of how the other made their business recede.

First was Jerome’s ongoing flirtation with customers as he was going way over the line contended Todd.

Jerome responded Todd’s too anal analytic approach always made customers feel he was incompetent as Todd made sure every account was checked twice making their clients wait too long for services.  It made Todd look insecure.

Todd felt that Jerome’s personal life intertwined with the business too much.  When his former girlfriend came into the office and accused Jerome of cheating on her in front of some of their clients was a huge loss that the business never recovered from.

Jerome declared Todd’s serious demeanor of rarely cracking a joke while working never created an invitation for people to continue to see them.  The customer never felt welcomed with Todd.

The accusations continued as a litany of mistakes were revealed between the two men.  It was a pathway through the past of how they created a failure.  The commonality of the two men was they were hiding behind how they were right and the other person was wrong.

Being right and the other person is wrong is a perspective hides the judgment that maintains a fear we will be found out by others and in this case the fear of being exposed that we are inadequate seems to resonate.  Both Todd and Jerome are quick to point the finger at on another yet maintain a defensive position that does not allow them to see their own self’s actions.  It is all talk with no listening.

Sadly if Todd and Jerome dissolve the business and start anew it is very likely they will create the same mistakes again because they did not do two crucial things.  They were not willing to see how they created the situation and were willing to admit that they were wrong.

There is release or a freeing feeling if you can admit that there is a possibility that you are wrong.  In Todd and Jerome’s case they learned early that making mistakes opened them to criticism and shaming.  Acceptance and love from their parents depended upon them being accomplished and successful (even as children).  So they associated admitting weakness to being unloved or being rejected.  However in doing so they created a judgment that vulnerability is a weakness instead of an openness to see a different point of view.

Admitting we are wrong opens us to the possibility to see our mistakes.  What most people misunderstand about mistakes is it is nothing to feel ashamed about.   Making mistakes is an important part of the learning process.  If Jerome and Todd could begin the process of seeing how they created their business from their errors (and even laugh at them) they could see how learning from our past mistakes can free their entire lives in so many ways.  They could have a different outcome than one hundred steps of blame that lead to tragedy.

By Bart Sharp

No matter what happens, I would like to live the rest of my life without getting angry, stressed, resentful or worried unless it was my choice to do so and I was making that choice fully present in that moment.

I remember getting mad at one of my students and I could see that I was just playing a part like an actor.  I had to do it because it was the only way that she would ‘get it’ to respect the boundary.   Once the play or confrontation was done I went back to calm.  I was completely detached from the situation. The reason that it was so easy was I made a conscious choice to do it that way.  There were no fears from my past triggering me to react in an old familiar pattern and as a result I did not become the affect of it.  That felt good.

For me when I become angry, resentful or stressed in relating to another there is usually an underlying fear that I am carrying at the same time such as: “I am not doing this good enough”, “This person is threatening to me”, or “This person reminds me of someone else who misused me and therefore I do not like these kind of people”.  Our mind/ego can create 101 reasons to create these fear-based rationales.

Now when I do react in a negative way (that I feel I am not actively choosing) I make sure I find some time later to process the situation.  After reviewing the situation and seeing how it felt in that past experience I ask, “When did I do this before?”  I want to see my patterns and hopefully where I originally began do this. Then I can begin to see the fearful situation that I did not resolve.  More processing.

Through this analysis I usually see how I recreated my life’s unsuccessful patterns.  Then I can begin the final stage of forgiving myself in some way. It is a heartfelt forgiveness and does not need to be very long most of the time.  I know I am finished with the situation when I began to feel no resistance to the situation.  Then I am ready to move onto a more joyful place.

By Bart Sharp

Fear is the core of all illness, it resides as unresolved emotional pain suppressed and hidden in our body.  If the pain festers it will eventually distort into a destructive behavior or body dysfunction.

According to the spiritual text, “A Course In Miracles” fear is the basis of all negative emotions such as anger, shame, guilt, jealousy, rage, hate, etc…

It has been a common belief that most if not all sickness has a psychological origin in its creation.  It is the body’s unconscious attempt to release emotional pain a person has suppressed that is most likely the source of illness.  Even though we may attempt to forget the experience and keep it in our past the body remains in present tense with the pain of the repressed emotional past.  It is a burden the body carries and attempts to let it go through unconscious strategies.

One way the body tries to release is by unconsciously guiding us to repeat the same behaviors that are similar to the original unresolved emotion.  It is our unconscious’ way of trying to get free of the pain.  For example, we attract intimate partners, friends or supervisors that are similar to the parent we struggled with.  Or we continue to find ourselves in conflicting crises that reflect the traumas of our childhood.  Sigmund Freud stated 90% of our actions are influenced by our unconsciousness.   We continue to be influenced by our unconsciousness because our unconsciousness continues to guide us to resolve it.

However for many do not see their everyday struggles as a message instead judge how bad or wrong it is.  The difference between being open to learn the messages that our emotional pains are trying to give us or staying fixed in the distress of it is a choice.  The first step in moving out of the cycle is to question how we created it.

Disease is often a repetition of judgments of how bad the painful experiences are in our life.  We repeat the unresolved patterns judging the wrongness of it and compound the pain for our body to hold.  For many they feel a sense of hopelessness that they will never go beyond these situations.  It is how we create sickness in our body.  Emotional pain will find a way to be expressed in a negative way if it is not released.

If we can be open to the concept that physical pains and illness have an origin in something that has not been resolved we can begin a relationship with our body and mind communication with the distress.  The inner journey within the consciousness of what our body has held can begin.  A more whole healing can be possible for us.

Healing is a mind to body process of identification, resolution and then release.  It begins by recalling the stories of our past and as we relive them while paying attention to what is occurring in our body.  For example if we tell a story of anger we held back as a child we could also feel a tension in our colon related to the experience.  The colon is holding an energetic memory of that childhood time (and maybe many more).

The therapeutic process becomes more of a visceral experience by feeling the body’s sensation as we explore the stories of our life.  It is the body’s way of showing us where the pain is held.  This distress is the source of our body pain and illness.  We perceive deeply into our body to feel where we have hidden our past away.  It is as parallel to the actual childhood or adult experience as we can get.

This is the place where a powerful form of direct healing can occur.  There are several strategies that can be successful.  To be present with the emotional memory and discussing with that part of you that still exists in the past can often release the distress.  It can be as simple as nurturing and telling the wounded persona from the past that he no longer has to fear that painful experience anymore, they are now safe and the people that inflicted the misuse are no longer with him/her. Then the energetic stress releases and then dissipates.

In addition to the above strategies I find that doing some kind of therapeutic work that directly releases the emotional memory is extremely helpful.  It seems to create a more deeper and profound change as it connects directly to the body’s memory of the incidents we have tried to forget.

It is a process, but the benefits of this type of work can be enjoyed for the remainder of our life.