How Do You Find Love?

How Do You Find Love?

By Bart Sharp

How do you find love?  A question asked through out the ages.  The response question; “How much do you love your self?  How deep does your love for you exist?  Is there a deep inner serenity inside your heart?

We are a magnet for what we emanate from our being.  What is inside of us will attract the same.  If we desire a prince charming we have to have the same sincerity in us.

A common test to find how much you love your self is when you are quiet, alone with no outside stimulus such as a televison, “Are you happy and content?”  “What dialogue is going on inside of your head?”  If the self-talk is negative it is a reflection that these  parts of your suppressed past are active within you.  We still hold the traumas and our body is in emotional discomfort.  It is one of the greatest obstacles for self-love, the pain of our pasts.

Much of the path to love is coming to terms with our hurts, abuses and let-downs.  We may feel ashamed of these and even believe they were our fault.  Regardless of how we feel about them we still do not have to hold onto them.  As a friend told me, “God forgives you even before you create a mistake, so will you allow you to forgive yourself?”  My world opened up after I could accept that.  It is that simple.  Our job is uncovering the past as fully as we can and somehow it will change.

When we transform we leap to new plateaus and what is found is a much stronger love for ourselves.  What is reflected and attracted is love from others in ways we have never known.  Love changes as we change.