Asking For Help Can Be One Out Our Greatest Fears

Asking For Help Can Be One Out Our Greatest Fears

By Bart Sharp

I have a friend who always asks for help from her angels throughout the day.  What ever the situation requires she asks for her angel’s assistance whether it be organizing a schedule, coordinating co-workers to their duties or cleaning her home.  She assigns angels to the jobs she does.  Regardless of the task it is always more easily accomplished. She still does the physical work.  The angels seem to move obstacles that exist on another plane that inhibit us here.

Other people pray to god for assistance.  It seems to be a great help for them.  Even if god speaks in a silent voice and is a passive participant people who pray believe that asking for help makes a big difference.

It is also common for people to ask other people for assistance.  Direct help is available for those who ask for it.  In most cases people love to help others.  They feel more connected to society and other people when they help their fellow man.

However for many people there is a resistance to ask for help.  There is a variety of reasons why people do not ask from being independent, pride, isolation or feel they do not deserve it.  The unconsciousness to not ask feels like an old habit of isolation that is so deep within that it is an intrinsic response.

For many there are underlying influences directing them not to ask for assistance.  To maintain a attitude of separation is the way for the person feeling less worthy.  It comes from a belief that they deserve the suffering.  This false perception that they do not deserve comes from a fear that is generally originates from experiences in their past.  A feeling that they are wrong and lesser than.  Receiving help creates a vulnerability to another through the exchange from the fear that they are found out as inadequate (as their fears have told them time and again).

For many who hold these fears that they are lesser, one of the worst outcomes of that particular fear would be having confirmation from another that they are that inadequate.  As crazy as the concept sounds it is what holds many from connecting to others for assistance (Being judged as less than).

As I mentioned earlier the source of such sabotaging points of view is something that people learned a long time ago in childhood.  Its source is most likely from being shamed by their parents.  The messages parents give to their children that they are less, un-welcomed, unwanted or wrong for what they do affect children trough their adult lives.  Children hold those beliefs.  Then they begin the process of feeling separate and inadequate.

These shaming fears develop into something the child and adult wish to avoid.  They most likely learn from their parents that asking for help will mean criticism or punishment of some form.  Therefore as adults they create themselves separate from others so connecting to others by asking for help triggers the shamed person to old shaming fears from their parents.

The more we realize our fears and how they began we are more able to learn new patterns.  Our relationship with god, angels and people will change.  We will be more willing to receive everything that life has to offer including help.