Growing Beyond Our Emotional Pain

Growing Beyond Our Emotional Pain

God forgives us before we make mistakes, so do angels. ascended masters accept us as we are, living saints all know we have folly.  How come we keep separating ourselves from love by judging others and ourselves?

Judging us is one of the hardest things we can do onto our selves.  When we make us wrong, bad, less than, criticize we are judging ourselves.  Each time we do this we are telling our unconscious mind and our body we are less, we deserve less in life.  We generally create our lives from that viewpoint.

We are forgiven before we make the mistake.  We do not have to hang onto our mishaps or try to prove we are better than our shortcomings.  Our higher power already knows that and supports us to grow beyond it.  What is required of us is a willingness to change, learn and evolve.  Judging only slows us down in that process.

When you am in those self critical mindsets it is good to ask yourself, “What am I not getting about this would give me clarity to move beyond it?”  Asking a question requests our unconsciousness to reveal our suppressed past that may be stimulating us to be self sabotaging.  Asking the question short circuits our ego a bit and allows information from a greater source to come in.

For example, “What is it about the anger at my boss that I am not getting?”  Suddenly after I asked the question a flash of a memory appears inside me that is related to my father and feeling helpless to his criticism.  It suddenly becomes clearer that my relationship with my boss is an reenactment of what I experienced with my father.  I then can see how I am recreating it.

At a deeper level I felt shameful from my father’s blame.  That created a perspective within me that I am wrong and forgiveness is difficult.  Thus I have to prove my value to my father and later others in life. The shame becomes guilt through the years as I believe I am wrong, unforgivable and have to work to prove that I am worthy for the mistakes I made.  This is a simple basis of how someone creates the reality of unforgivable that is transferred over to relationships like our boss.  Of course the basis of shame and guilt springboard into other emotions and behaviors such as: anger, rage, blame, doubt, depression, addiction… to name a few.

We hold ourselves in this world by remaining in an attitude that we cannot resolve, be free or forgiven.  I find we have to keep asking for the past to reveal itself so we can find the truth then we can set ourselves free from the lies that we are lesser, damaged or unforgivened.