Finding Love As An Adult When There Was Little Or No Love As A Child

Finding Love As An Adult When There Was Little Or No Love As A Child

By Bart Sharp

Finding love as an adult when your parents were unable to show you love as a child is not impossible.  The most important aspect of finding love is discovering our own ability to love ourselves first and foremost.  This is a process of learning where to find the source of our own love.

For many who grew up in homes of little affection they sought love through other people.  Relationships never truly complete that place inside of us that feels like there is something missing.  We cannot resolve our happiness through others generally the relationships will mirror what we are lacking.   Wholeness of us is a rediscovery within ourselves not completion with others.

A common misconception is that we will never regain our love that we missed in childhood.  This is partially true because often our parents did not have it to give in the first place.  However we do need to go back and visit that part of us that suffered from the lack of caring.  It can be as easy as visualizing you as an infant or child and holding this person.  Nurturing you and telling you the things it needs to hear in order to feel more complete.  All too often we see our child as being wrong in various scenarios in our past when in reality that we as a child probably did the most brilliant thing we could do.  We need to tell this child part of us those nurturing and reassuring messages on a regular basis.  Simply sit in a chair, hold and talk to your imagined baby.  It feels good.

To find our own love begins in getting in touch with our heart and our gut.  I am always paying attention to my heart and creating a stimulus that makes it feel whole and alive.  One of my favorite exercises is to visualize my higher power holding me and my heart.  That I am nurtured by god and know that god’s love is always with me.  I can do this wth my guardian angels as well.   My connection to a higher source always helps me connect to my own higher love.

Sometimes I sit on the earth and imagine or visualize the energy of the earth coming up into my stomach.  This always makes me feel more centered and embodied into me.  When this happens I always feel better and my heart opens.

Creating love within you is a process.  We can find our self and the love that is naturally inside of us.   It is a process of reorienting our mind to believe and see something that has been there all along, our self-love.