How The Angered Violent Person Is Created

How The Angered Violent Person Is Created

By Bart Sharp

What makes someone so mean and angered that they can or could commit violent acts onto others?  There are three parts in the creation of someone so angry.  There is a pain in that person so angry that they could be violent, a decision they made to act on it and a judgment they made it right or wrong that holds the pattern in place.

The pain is often something the persecutor has held all or most of their life.  The common emotional experience that holds this pain in place is shame.  For many aggressive people it is something that they experience often at an early age and is most painful for them.  Shame is conveyed is such ways as telling a child they are unwanted, not welcomed in the home, undesired, wrong for their actions and so many other ways.  Parents that resent the fact that they have children are some of the worst culprits as the child is the victim of the parents discontent through their actions and unconscious thoughts.

The child then harbors the pain of the shame and builds their self-esteem from that limited point of view.  The creation of feeling lesser than others and having people in your life that reinforce the perspective is the nucleus of another emotional stronghold in the child’s life, anger.

As the child grows they choose what to do with the anger.  It is a decision that creates an important pattern in their lives.  Does the child express or suppress the anger?

If the decision is expression then the child most likely will likely use anger as a destructive and controlling force.  It is unlikely that the child learns how to use anger in an assertive or positive way because they did not have the roles models to teach them the skills.  Most likely the pattern of aggression is done by a judgment that they are right or wrong in their aggression which the judging solidifies the pattern.   The unconscious and suppressed judgment influences the repetition of aggressive acts.  The shame through anger creates an active ongoing pain in the person.

The unconscious mind/body is a powerful part of us.  Sigmund Freud said that the unconscious influences 90% of our decisions.  It drives us to decision in a subtle masked way.  For example, a person who seems to be aggressive to passive men may have unresolved conflicts with her own passive father.  Unconsciously the person is trying to resolve the conflict attracting similar people into their live to re-play it.  Unfortunately this unconscious strategy does not have a high degree of success.

If the decision of the child is to suppress the anger they find more passive ways to express the anger and/or self-destructive ways to reinforce their own powerlessness such as depression, addiction, ongoing anxieties, disempowerment, and long list of other behaviors.

When we can come to terms with our anger by identifying it and feeling it within us then we are on the path to feeling where it began, the shame.  Using therapeutic strategies to explore these long lost emotions through the body memory can be very effective in identifying the shame and releasing it.

Bart Sharp works with clients by identifying the body memory of the emotional pains and then using energetic clearings to resolve the memories.  People discover a new perspective when the shamed parts of themselves evolve to a joyful perspective.  A freedom and inner strength is rediscovered that feels natural and gives the person a new power to transform their life.